Should Believers Date Unbelievers?

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Hi N____,
Thank you for your encouraging words. I am honored to be of help to anyone, and it means more to me than you know to be told that what I have written has helped you.
You ask me some questions I simply cannot answer directly. I can tell you only what God’s Word says about any given situation.
This much I can tell you; you cannot be unequally yoked with an unbeliever and expect God to bless you for your lack of patience. It will not happen. What will happen under those circumstances is that you will be chastened to forsake ungodliness and to lead a godly life in this present age.

2Co 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
2Co 6:15  And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
2Co 6:16  And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

Tit 2:11  For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men,
Tit 2:12  Teaching [ Greek- chastening] us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world;

I do not claim the Pentecostal version of “a word of knowledge.” Any ‘word of knowledge’ which I have for you will be founded only on the word of God.
Now, if indeed you allowed yourself to become emotionally involved with a man who is not of the same mind, a man who does not fear God as you do, then you did indeed act without faith. Whether God intends you to keep this job I cannot tell you. I can tell you that you need to trust God to work His will according to His word, in your life. I can tell you this upon the authority of God’s Word; if marriage is more important to you than serving and living by the Word of God, then you are not worthy of Christ:

Mat 10:37  He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
Mat 10:38  And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.
Mat 10:39  He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it.

You should not be dating a man who is not already in a serious personal relationship with Christ. I can tell you from personal experience that it was not until I finally gave up on finding a wife, after coming to the point that I prayed, ‘not my will but Thine be done; if that means that I am to be a life- long bachelor, then so be it.’ When I became serious in that prayer and when God Himself had given me the strength to really mean that, then He sent me a young lady who was more than I could have hoped for. That was 37 years, 5 children and 14 grandchildren ago. I was the last of my 5 siblings and the last in my graduating class in college to get married. But it was well worth the wait.
God is preparing people to rule this world. He is not taking on or putting up with those who are not serious and whole hearted in their relationship with Him. He will play second fiddle to no one. He will be first or He will not be in there.

Psa 119:2  Blessed are they that keep his testimonies, and that seek him with the whole heart.

You confess to me that you went against your own conscience and “disobeyed God.” Such a heart is precious in the eyes of God. I believe that God is truly working in your life to bring you to Himself. Put Him first, and you will be very well rewarded for doing so. I cannot be any more specific than that, but I can say that with confidence.
God is answering your prayers, but He is also trying your faith. He does not do this to see what you will do. He already knows exactly what you will do. He tries your faith to show you what you are made of. He tries you faith to show you where you are weak and where you need to work on your self. It is not our answered prayers that are precious to God. It is  not even our faith that is precious to God. It is the trial of our faith that is more precious than gold to God.

1Pe 1:7  That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ:

There is another of your questions I can answer with confidence and conviction. You ask if I think God is chastening you for your disobedience. I cannot speak to particular events, but I can say confidently that God will never fail to chasten a child who He loves:

Heb 12:5  And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him:
Heb 12:6  For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.
Heb 12:7 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?
Heb 12:8  But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.

“Whom the Lord loves He chastens and scourges every son He receives.” There are no exceptions. It is every son, and it is every time.
The hardest times of my life have been the most profitable times spiritually. Without the chastening and scourging God has given me I would never have been able to conquer the beast within. I thank God for every stripe He has graciously given me. I rejoice in my suffering because I know that if I suffer with Him I will also reign with Him.
But it is all done in love. God does not abuse His children. His judgments all always to bring us to Himself. He will not place a single stripe more than is needed and for our own good. He will see you through this trial. He is your Father who loves you and will give you what you need. He has promised never to forsake us:

Heb 13:5  [ Let your] conversation [ be] without covetousness; [ and be] content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.

I hope I have answered your questions, and I hope I have said something that will encourage you to remain faithful to your heavenly Father above everything else in this world.

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