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Breasts: Signatory of The Mother of All Living, Nourishing Spiritually, Ruling Coitally, Part 4

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Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. (Pro 5:19)  

Continuing the topic of espousal “touch”

A would-be husband chooses his preferably young wife, invariably from Babylon, where he and she are predestined to be sent. Because of Adam and Eve’s curses, she is already emblematically ‘old in adulteries’ (as is he), that a husband should unconsciously, yet gladly, bow to her eminence.

The following observations from both professional (adapted) and personal experience ideally stem from a wife needing and the Bride being given a higher purpose for a superior reason than Eve’s to engage a husband intimately, following her and Adam’s curses, aside from having children, an internal desire or longing (to ‘pant’ – Psa 42:1) for her husband’s touch, Just as he does for hers. Before further discussing physical touch—which symbolizes the spiritual touch from our Husband, Christ—that, driven by genuine passion to follow and obey all His commands, acts as the catalyst that ravishes Him, the very purpose of her design. King David in Psalms 42 reflects an everyday wife’s profound desire, upon realizing that her wounded libido, the “health of her countenance” (Psa 42:11), could be restored by dedicating her mind, spirit and body, entirely to Christ, without a slightly greater measure of the holy spirit, unwittingly invoking another Christ. In Psalms 42 and 43, the KJV correctly titled the chapter “Why Are You Cast Down, O My Soul?” is desired and sung by the Babylonian Harlots many Sundays. Interestingly, the “daughters of Jerusalem” are mentioned ten times in the Song of Solomon and are phenomenally indicative of Leah’s ten children aching for the sons of God to be revealed (Rom 8:18), yet, it is only the Shulamite-like Bride of Christ in the Song of Solomon who is given to eagerly and authentically pursue her Lord with her breasts wholly.

Why Are You Cast Down, O My Soul?

Psa 42:1  To the chief Musician, Maschil, for the sons of Korah. As the hart panteth after the water brooks, so panteth my soul after thee, O God. 
Psa 42:2  My soul thirsteth for God, for the living God: when shall I come and appear before God?
Psa 42:3  My tears have been my meat day and night, while they continually say unto me, Where is thy God?
Psa 42:4  When I remember these things, I pour out my soul in me: for I had gone with the multitude, I went with them to the house of God, with the voice of joy and praise, with a multitude that kept holyday [All the feasts of the Lord, the Old Covenant]. 

Yet, terribly typical of us in Babylon, alert to a way of leaving, the holy spirit niggles us that all in Orthodox Christianity is not right—something significant is amiss!

Psa 42:5  Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted in me? hope thou in God: for I shall yet praise him for the help of his countenance.
Psa 42:6  O my God, my soul is cast down within me: therefore will I remember thee from the land of Jordan, and of the Hermonites, from the hill Mizar.
Psa 42:7  Deep calleth unto deep at the noise of thy waterspouts: all thy waves and thy billows are gone over me. [Her soul is searching her soul without respite] 
Psa 42:8  Yet the LORD will command his lovingkindness in the daytime, and in the night his song shall be with me, and my prayer unto the God of my life.
Psa 42:9  I will say unto God my rock, Why hast thou forgotten me? why go I mourning because of the oppression of the enemy? 
Psa 42:10  As with a sword in my bones, mine enemies reproach me; while they say daily unto me, Where is thy God?
Psa 42:11  Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope thou in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.

Countenance H4758 – 1. sight, appearance, vision a. sight, phenomenon, spectacle, appearance, vision b. what is seen. From H7200 – appear, behold.

Following are some of the fifty-three times the term “countenance” is mentioned in scripture.

Gen 4:6  And the LORD said unto Cain, Why art thou wroth? and why is thy countenance fallen?

Son 2:14  O my dove, that art in the clefts of the rock, in the secret places of the stairs, let me see thy countenance, let me hear thy voice; for sweet is thy voice, and thy countenance is comely. 

Son 5:15  His legs are as pillars of marble, set upon sockets of fine gold: his countenance is as Lebanon, excellent as the cedars.

Rev 1:16  And he had in his right hand seven stars: and out of his mouth went a sharp twoedged sword: and his countenance was as the sun shineth in his strength.

Correspondingly, the agreeable opposite sex’s touch lights up our countenance, as our Husband Christ lit up our countenances when we were touched by Him to fully understand our Lord’s Song of Songs.

As opposed to Leah’s ten children, represented by Solomon’s 1,000 wives, “the daughters of [old] Jerusalem”, the following is what the Bride of Christ sees, having been given to reverse her curse and pursue her Husband analogously with her breasts, her heart overwhelmingly as a moment-by-moment and daily connective state of being consummated. We often only associate the term ‘consummate’ with a marital sexual consummative act, and, yes, that is true. Still, before that wonderful finality, every detail of our lives must be in transition to being consummated, a verb and adjective which and among many meanings is, expert, accomplished, complete, total, categorical, transcendent, supreme, unsurppassed, excellent, stellar, quintessential, whole, irreproachable, virtuous, hopeful, finished, undivided, definitive, obey, king, enthrone, all of which are directly indicative of Christ’s life in us, and we, in Him and around and in his throne.

Rev 4:6  And before the throne there was a sea of glass like unto crystal: and in the midst of the throne, and round about the throne, were four beasts full of eyes before and behind. 

In remembering this study’s theme of our breasts signifying our heart’s passions represented spiritually, biological triggers can transform a simple embrace into an obsession. Subsequently, specific touch techniques can elicit a reenactment of the moment for several days. For the Bride of Christ spiritually, forever! She thus ‘imprints’ on mind and spirit a desire for bodily intimacy with His body through three triggers that emboss her mind, body, and spirit—her emotional memory signified spiritually.

Luk 8:46  And Jesus said, Somebody hath touched me: [Ultimately, it is about the Bride touching Him] for I perceive that virtue is gone out of me. 
Luk 8:47  And when the woman saw that she was not hid, she came trembling, and falling down before him, she declared unto him before all the people for what cause she had touched him, and how she [for this purpose, “the health of her countenance”] was healed immediately.

Touch G680 1. to fasten oneself to, adhere to, cling to a. to touch b. of carnal intercourse with a woman or cohabitation. G 681 – a. to fasten fire to a thing, kindle, set on fire.

Virtue G1411 1. strength, power, ability a. inherent power, power residing in a thing by virtue of its nature, or which a person or thing exerts and puts forth. b. power for performing miracles. 

Mat 9:20  And, behold, a woman, which was diseased with an issue of blood twelve years, came behind him, and touched the hem of his garment:
Mat 9:21  For she said within herself, If I may but touch his garment, I shall be whole.

Mar 10:13  And they brought young children to him, that he should touch them: and his disciples rebuked those that brought them. 

Luk 7:39  Now when the Pharisee which had bidden him saw it, he spake within himself, saying, This man, if he were a prophet, would have known who and what manner of woman this is that toucheth him: for she is a sinner. 

A young, beautiful, ebullient woman embodies a rich and complex blend of feminine power, inherently residing within her, both positively and negatively ‘touching’ all men. It so touched Adam, representing all men, having for the most part lost authority and headship, deludedly ascended to self-glory above God’s headship, and was thus attributed that ignominious distinction, representative of harlotry, touching the entirety of mankind.

Human touch between any combination of sexes, authentically and delicately granted in the appropriate setting, is the most profound sensual announcement of love. Touch for babies, particularly from their mother, is absolutely critical for their development of mind and body, as it is for spouses’ spiritual interplay; spiritually, it is designed to harmonize with Christ and the Father in an incredibly unifying way.

When any individual of faith came into contact with Christ, the “virtue” that departed from Him evidently is not something He is incapable of reclaiming, given His divine nature, as well as that of His Father—an unlimited spirit of “I am, the Alpha and Omega.” The love of the Godhead is so profound that the very dynamics of their existence are in perpetual motion of recognition.

Rev 4:8  And the four beasts had each of them six wings about him; and they were full of eyes within: and they rest not day and night, saying, Holy, holy, holy, Lord God Almighty, which was, and is, and is to come. 

Consequently, when love proceeds from them, it returns to them replete from the man or woman into whom it went. Touch, in mind, body and spirit, is essential to convey God’s holy spirit in a continual life-force of connectivity.

Isa 55:8  For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD. 
Isa 55:9  For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. 
Isa 55:10  For as the rain cometh down, and the snow from heaven, and returneth not thither, but watereth the earth, and maketh it bring forth and bud, that it may give seed to the sower, and bread to the eater: 
Isa 55:11  So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.
Isa 55:12  For ye shall go out with joy, and be led forth with peace: the mountains and the hills shall break forth before you into singing, and all the trees of the field shall clap their hands. 
Isa 55:13  Instead of the thorn shall come up the fir tree, and instead of the brier shall come up the myrtle tree: and it shall be to the LORD for a name, for an everlasting sign that shall not be cut off.

Php 4:8  Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. 

Accordingly, the sustained, anticipated husband-and-Shulamite-like passionate physical and spiritual touch and response in the Song of Solomon are of paramount importance to their relationship, as they are spiritually from Christ to his Bride and to her devastating reaction. Unrequited love is death, and in the end, death itself is dead.

Hos 6:4  O Ephraim, what shall I do unto thee? O Judah, what shall I do unto thee? for your goodness is as a morning cloud, and as the early dew it goeth away. 

Rom 5:8  But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

Psa 147:2  The LORD doth build up Jerusalem: he gathereth together the outcasts of Israel.
Psa 147:3  He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds. 
Psa 147:4  He telleth the number of the stars; he calleth them all by their names.
Psa 147:5  Great is our Lord, and of great power: his understanding is infinite. 

Typically, a person’s touch carries multiple nuances that the recipient must interpret. For women, whose thinner skin and entire body serve as a sensory organ, God has designed them to be instantly alert to a man’s touch, particularly a touch indicating intimacy. In the context of the environment, and speaking maritally, God designed women to be easily overcome by excitement; their emotions can flood their system, and it is a contrast of beauty for a husband, particularly from a young and devoted wife. She is innately inclined to share her emotions, the joy, and burden with another person, preferably her husband, to ground and contain that emotion. She wants to see and feel another person’s emotion through sharing hers, which is why she often has a gaggle of like-minded female friends. Deep down, she is often unsure of her feelings and impulsively seeks immediate validation while the sentiment is still hot, to gauge the impact her experience has on him. Since the fleshy experience feels so real and immediate right now, it’s essential to satisfy that need right away, or it might fade away.

Following is a brief diversion that reveals what her husband secretly adores, touching his heart: her lively, exuberant, youthful spirit, shown through charming little quirks she doesn’t even realize she has; if she did, it would intrigue her no end—and for the deceitful woman’s arsenal of Ecclesiastes 7:29 contrivances of allurement.

A young woman’s innate ability to ‘touch’ psychologically and physically reminds me of the lyrics from Bobby Goldsboro’s 1969 song, “Honey”, many an older person will remember. The critical point I wish to emphasize, is that it captures the beauty of a young, enthusiastic wife’s natural charm—an enchantment that only a man can truly appreciate—and a husband’s most irresistible allure, where even her (hopefully) few faults are kind of cute and easily overlooked—unless, of course, too often repeated, could, and lamentably denote a bimbo, a variation of a “silly woman” as noted in 2Timothy 3:6. Some women’s observance of such airy youthfulness, often regard it with contempt due to the young woman’s inherent, albeit totally unconsciousness of just being an ebullient young woman, that some women in jealous contempt roll their eyes as deliberately creating drama—the silly little “kind of dumb” idiosyncrasies of intimacy that only her husband appreciates. To fully embrace the genuine emotions through the music’s lilt without validating Christmas and other perceived esoterics in the lyrics, here’s a link:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_d8kT-Vi90

I’ve included the full lyrics to immerse the audience in the music, with the emphasis I wish to highlight, which is mostly captured in the line. 

“She was always young at heart.

Kinda dumb, and kinda smart

And I loved her so…”

Eve was likewise “kind of dumb and kind of smart”, and Adam, equally, although slightly differently,  “kind of dumb and kind of smart, loved her so” all the way out of Eden. However, with a young Shulamite’s vibrancy emanating from her bosom, alongside the elegance of an Esther-like wisdom and maturity, every male’s attention is captivated.

Honey

See the tree, how big it’s grown

But friend, it hasn’t been too long

It wasn’t big

I laughed at her, and she got mad

The first day that she planted it

Was just a twig

Then the first snow came

And she ran out to brush the snow away

So it wouldn’t die

Came runnin’ in all excited

Slipped and almost hurt herself

And I laughed ’til I cried

She was always young at heart

Kinda dumb, and kinda smart

And I loved her so...

And I surprised her with a puppy

Kept me up all Christmas Eve

Two years ago

And it would sure embarrass her

When I came in from workin’ late

‘Cause I would know

That she’d been sittin’ there and cryin’

Over some sad and silly late, late show…

And honey, I miss you

And I’m being good

And I’d love to be with you

If only I could

She wrecked the car, and she was sad

And so afraid that I’d be mad

But, what the heck

Though I pretended hard to be

Guess you could say she saw through me

And hugged my neck

I came home unexpectedly

And caught her cryin’ needlessly

In the middle of the day

And it was in the early spring

When flowers bloom, and robins sing

She went away

And honey, I miss you

And I’m being good

And I’d love to be with you

If only I could

One day while I was not at home

While she was there, and all alone

The angels came

Now all I have is memories of honey

And I wake up nights

And call her name

Now my life’s an empty stage

Where honey lived, and honey played

And love grew up

And a small cloud passes over head

And cries down on the flower bed that

Honey loved

And see the tree, how big it’s grown

But friend, it hasn’t been too long

It wasn’t big

And I laughed at her, and she got mad

The first day that she planted it

Was just a twig

It’s the youthful, spontaneous energy and girlish laughter, even sadness, of a woman, expressed through every nuance and movement of her sensitive body, combined with her natural beauty, that truly captivates a man.

Ideally, for the sake of “touch,” she lovingly immerses herself in her husband’s next delicately synchronized orchestration, maybe feeling a little breathless with anticipation for his next touch. In the natural coming before the spiritual, the following three fundamentals thus quantify the level and advancement of ravishment through touch in her mind, radiating out of her stomach to her breasts, her heart, returning to him alive and rousing and evokes Isa 55:11… ‘my word shall not return to me void into whom he has sent it into’, manifested by Solomon’s words in the secret places of the stairs in his heart, “O my dove, that art in the clefts of the rock, in the secret places of the stairs, let me see thy countenance, let me hear thy voice; for sweet is thy voice, and thy countenance is comely” – Son 2:14. Of course, “touch” is what Solomon and every man, and particularly husbands, “sick of love” (Song 2:5) experience in agonising joy, as it does spiritually with Christ and his Bride.

Here are but three aspects of how dynamically a wife responds to her husband’s touch, typifying how Christ and his Bride interact.

• • Sensory Contrast (fast, slow, delicate, a little rough, whisper, urgency of emotion)

• Duration Regulation (fine-tuning)

• Autonomic Synchronization (The involuntary alignment of physiological responses—such as heart rate, respiration, and skin conductance—between people during shared emotional experiences, and is what the Shulamite expresses from her breasts and heart in the Song of Solomon, and we spiritually to Christ today)

As you would expect, all of these Introductory Studies progressively unfold to reveal from whence the budding Bride has been emerging from Babylon, and to present her grand debut in the Song of Solomon. Thus, the following, and indeed the entire series, is not intended as a lesson on marital foreplay. Nonetheless, somewhat covertly, everything to do with the Bride’s journey to become Christ’s wife is assuredly lovemaking. It is the kind of poetry every young bride wants to hear, authentically expressed, that involuntarily arouses her sensually and, as does her bright response, Him—them both, ultimately, spiritually. Of course, all arising from both spouses’ hearts beneath their breasts.

Son 6:2  [In the third person with sensual overtones spoken by the Shulamite for us, spiritually] My beloved [Solomon/Christ] is gone down into his garden, to the beds of spices, to feed in the gardens, and to gather lilies. 

Isa 62:3  Thou shalt also be a crown of glory in the hand of the LORD, and a royal diadem in the hand of thy God. 
Isa 62:4  Thou shalt no more be termed Forsaken; neither shall thy land any more be termed Desolate: but thou shalt be called Hephzibah, and thy land Beulah: for the LORD delighteth in thee, and thy land shall be married. [Hephzibah Definition: hephzi-bah = my delight is in her 1. the queen of King Hezekiah and mother of Manasseh 2. a name for Jerusalem. From H2656 –  1. delight, pleasure a. delight b. desire, longing c. the good pleasure d. that in which one takes delight. H1156 Beulah Definition: 1. to marry, rule over, possess, own a. (Qal) 1. to marry, be Lord (husband) over 2. to rule over b. (Niphal) to be married]

Isa 62:5  For as a young man marrieth a virgin, so shall thy sons marry thee: [Not polygamy, but a reference to the Elect of God] and as the bridegroom rejoiceth over the bride, so shall thy God rejoice over thee. 

Gal 2:20  I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me. 

Son 2:10  My beloved spake, and said unto me, Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away. 
Son 2:11  For, lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone; 
Son 2:12  The flowers appear on the earth; the time of the singing of birds is come, and the voice of the turtle is heard in our land; 
Son 2:13  The fig tree putteth forth her green figs, and the vines with the tender grape give a good smell. Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away.

Wives, female sensual physicians and attentive husbands agree that the most seductively effective act—one that leaves a wife longing for you even in your absence—is fostering her anticipatory sensuality that imprints in him. This mirrors how Christ has built our spiritual anticipation over 2,000 years, as seen in all of scripture, to be teased out in these studies: Christ imprinting us, the young, effervescent Bride, on Him.

This process, coupled with her experience of her husband’s skilled touch, immediately heightens her sensory awareness, making every nerve ending alert for the next intricately placed delicate touch. This is the very tactic the Shulamite likewise employs as she builds her house, keeping His mind always ravishing on her. In fact, it is he building her, having trained her pre-pubescently, ultimately to be single-eyed and devoted to him. We are wonderfully reminded by the repetition of Christ saying, Thou hast ravished my heart, my sister, my spouse; thou hast ravished my heart with one of thine eyes, with one chain of thy neck – Son 4:9. It all is primarily accomplished by Christ, our sensually/spiritually skilled lover’s contrasting his touch with ours, carefully regulated in time and order, perfectly synchronized by His will.

Carnally, this initial sensual incitement requires 90 seconds and will fundamentally alter your perception of female desire. Like “deceitful kisses”, let us begin with an examination of why the majority of embraces are entirely forgettable; for an Elect in Christ, designedly so, since amatory embraces are by the millisecond extended, suggesting fornicative Ecc 7:26-like “ensnaring” machinations. Every woman can perceive this instantaneously, and depending upon her righteous or unrighteous artifices, often masterfully orchestrates them for her artful advantage. The distinction lies between a man who hastily envelops her in a hug and one who gently, gradually, and calmly ‘draws’ her closer.

Psa 28:3  Draw me not away with the wicked, and with the workers of iniquity, which speak peace to their neighbours, but mischief is in their hearts. 

Psa 69:18  Draw nigh unto my soul, and redeem it: deliver me because of mine enemies [holding me back from wholly giving you my mind, body and your spirit returning to you lushishly fruitful]. 
Psa 69:19  Thou hast known my reproach, and my shame, and my dishonour: mine adversaries are all before thee. 

Son 1:4  Draw me, we will run after thee: the king hath brought me into his chambers: we will be glad and rejoice in thee, we will remember thy love more than wine: the upright love thee. 

When a husband rushes, it comes across as desperate, almost as if he fears she might slip away. Conversely, when he gradually draws her in—assuming he is confident she will, with halting breath, come closer—her body relaxes involuntarily. This is where it becomes particularly intriguing. Such patience does not merely convey confidence; it exudes a form of dominance, suggestive of power and authority, headship, that is God-designed to be arousing for a wife. The psychological basis is straightforward. Women tend to be highly sensitive to pacing; rapid movements often indicate nervousness, fear, or Amnon-like lustful neediness, whereas slower movements suggest certainty, control, and masculine stability. When a man refrains from rushing to close the distance, akin to rape, he effectively communicates that he has the space and, having chosen his wife, he guides her into his framework—the opposite of what Babylonian wives emphasise. Authentically, of course, there is always a place for more torrid amatory expressions.

Pro 29:20  Seest thou a man that is hasty in his words? there is more hope of a fool than of him. 
Pro 29:21  He that delicately bringeth up his servant from a child [Trained up in the way he should spiritually go, particularly when without breasts] shall have him become his son at the length. 

Rom 15:5  Now the God of patience and consolation grant you to be likeminded one toward another according to Christ Jesus: 
Rom 15:6  That ye may with one mind and one mouth glorify God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Psa 42:1… As the hart panteth after the water brooks, so panteth my soul after thee, O God. 

Quite the opposite of dopey Hollywood movies, the fundamental principle is: never wrench, never lunge—instead, guide. Gently position your hand, apply calm pressure, and allow her body to lean into yours. By setting the pace, she perceives safety, which, in turn, unlocks desire. Move more slowly than you might instinctively believe necessary, and breathe more slowly than usual. This slow approach causes her to replay the moment more rapidly in her mind later. However, there is an additional aspect that most husbands overlook: once she is close, the placement of your hand becomes critically important.

Joh 16:13  Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come.
Joh 16:14  He shall glorify me: for he shall receive of mine, and shall shew it unto you. 
Joh 16:15  All things that the Father hath are mine: therefore said I, that he shall take of mine, and shall shew it unto you.

There is a reason women tend to melt when a man’s hand, particularly one of commanding presence, is placed on the lower back during a hug. Such a gesture does not appear casual or friendly; instead, it conveys a sense of protection and possessiveness, akin to a statement of, “You’re safe with me, and you’re mine” at the same time, giving her a welcome sense of ownership and peace and “delight” of belonging. The underlying psychological response is intrinsic to God’s design of women. The lower back is a vulnerable spot. It’s unguarded, exposed, close to her hips, and those highly erotic thighs, her “loins”, when elegantly, explicitly dressed for him, inherently, by equally cunning contrast, regulation and synchronization, play a particularly ravishing song of songs, she learnt from Him.

Son 7:1  How beautiful are thy feet with shoes, O prince’s daughter! the joints of thy thighs are like jewels, the work of the hands of a cunning workman.

When a man places his hand on her lumbar, her sacral region, synonymous with ‘sacred’, it taps into God’s wiring of her blueprint to respond. It sends signals from her mind in harmony with her heart, through her thighs and legs, back to her breasts, proclaiming leadership and strength to which a welcoming wife draws nigh. An unwarranted physical contact with a single woman, especially in an increasingly risky area below her shoulder blade, where his left hand typically is, as in a waltz, could potentially cause offence. Consequently, her body language might respond curtly. 

Psa 69:18  Draw nigh unto my soul, and redeem it: deliver me because of mine enemies.

Jas 4:8  Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded. 

These expressions of intimacy correspond with the Shulamite’s preparation and anticipated liberation from years of dreaming of her restrained passion and imminent marital outpouring. Written by her husband for her, and if she, like Jephthah’s daughter (Jud 11:29-40), would be utterly devastated, (as too, we can imagine Abishag for King David, although he, excusably naturally impotent) in having a husband who was unknowledgeable and unskilled in righteous seduction was for any reason denied marriage, when she having devoted her entire youth “for the day she is spoken for” (Son 8:8). Consequently, these advancements from the forthright kisses in the Song of Solomon 1:2, are the Shulamite’s fantasized natural progression of essential touch, played with contrast and modulation in synchrony, particularly for a wife, as it is primarily critical to her arousal as it is to her husband’s arousal—the very kind of ravishment Christ our husband has been increasingly experiencing spiritually for around 2,000 years, as has his Bride.

Most incurious and uneducated husbands unconsciously avoid that area and stay high on the shoulders, where it feels platonic. Husbands who confidently take the lower back instantly separate themselves from the incurious and egocentric man. This is where it gets critical. If you want her to feel your presence, guide her lower back, synonymous with her aforementioned “loins”. Not too low, not groping, but firm and calm—and again, with contrast, modulation in synchrony. That placement tells her she’s with a man, not a boy, or an Ammon, sick with lust, hustling for the main meal, and not enjoying the zest of the hors d’oeuvres. Once she feels that strength, she won’t forget it. Most men ruin the moment without even realizing it. Similar to other men, they embrace, pat each other’s backs twice, and then relinquish the embrace too swiftly. To a wife, this gesture appears cold and easily forgettable, suggesting an eagerness to disengage. Conversely, a man who holds on slightly longer—merely one second beyond the anticipated moment of release—can produce a ripple effect within a potential fiancée and wife, affecting her mind and body in a manner she finds impossible to overlook. Her touch, too, has the same effect on him when he says, “Turn away thine eyes from me, for they have overcome me…” – Son 6:5.

Here’s what most people don’t realize. Women are wired to notice subtle timing. When you break that rhythm, her body reacts. If you let go too soon, it feels like rejection. If you hold a little longer, it feels like desire (Gen 2:24, Song 8:3). That extra second forces her to wonder. Did he want more? Was he feeling me, my heart? Why didn’t he let go right away? That question sticks. It’s the question that can turn an ordinary hug into an obsession. A wise and virtuous man’s rule with a maid or wife is, don’t grip, don’t cling, and don’t smother. Just hold the beat a little longer than usual, then release calmly. That slight delay will feel like an unspoken desire. She’ll be the one replaying it, wondering why it felt so different.

Remember this because it ties directly into the next layer. When your wife notices that your breath smells like apples and you gently brush her neck, her body responds instinctively before her mind has a chance to stop it. The hug might seem ordinary until his cheek softly brushes hers or his breath lingers near her neck. That tiny, almost accidental touch that the Shulamite has replayed masterfully in her mind is lethal for her response to Him. It bypasses logic. Her body reacts before her mind can control it. A shiver down the spine. Goosebumps. A sudden warmth low in the stomach, progressively and powerfully instigated from her mind in her heart beneath he breasts—it does with us, His Bride—the “me” in the following verse representing the collective Bride’s Body in the term, “we”:

Son 1:3  Because of the savour of thy good ointments thy name is as ointment poured forth, therefore do the virgins love thee. 
Son 1:4  Draw me, we will run after thee: the king hath brought me into his chambers: we will be glad and rejoice in thee, we will remember thy love [expressed in the above address] more than wine: the upright love thee.