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Breasts: Signatory of The Mother of All Living, Nourishing Spiritually, Ruling Coitally, Part 5

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Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe;
let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. Pro 5:19

Solomon in the SoS, as all attentive husbands know, that a woman’s neck is one of the most sensitive areas of a woman’s body. It’s intimate, vulnerable, in charge, with nerves tied to desire. Male friends tend to avoid it to prevent crossing boundaries, as it might be interpreted as having lustful intentions.

As we have been studying, a woman’s neck is a highly sensory part of her body, connecting her mind to her heart. The Bride’s neck, depicted in the SoS as like the tower of David, built for his armoury,  powerfully resists breaches of her passions by some brutish fellow’s plunder, devastating her sensual armoury’s resistance, him moving to her lips and soon after, her breasts, thus quickly degrading her virginity. Of course, all women, alert to their mother’s hopeful teaching (spiritually, the Church’s) and to upholding her husband’s word, will bind her parents’ words in their hearts. They are watchful and instantly alert to any verbal cues of a male that suggest his lustful physical intentions, righteously ‘stiffen their necks’, and will elegantly remove themselves from his company. In the negative sense, we, as was Old Israel, were a stiff-necked people, carousing with wanton necks, outstretched and constantly seeking adulteries physically and spiritually.

Exo 32:8  They have turned aside quickly out of the way which I commanded them: they have made them a molten calf, and have worshipped it, and have sacrificed thereunto, and said, These be thy gods, O Israel, which have brought thee up out of the land of Egypt.
Exo 32:9  And the LORD said unto Moses, I have seen this people, and, behold, it is a stiffnecked people:

Isa 3:16  Moreover the LORD saith, Because the daughters of Zion are haughty, and walk with stretched forth necks and wanton eyes, walking and mincing as they go, and making a tinkling with their feet: 
Isa 3:17  Therefore the Lord will smite with a scab the crown of the head of the daughters of Zion, and the LORD will discover their secret parts.

Pro 6:20  My son, keep thy father’s commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother:
Pro 6:21  Bind them continually upon thine heart, and tie them about thy neck.

Son 4:4  Thy neck is like the tower of David builded for an armoury, whereon there hang a thousand bucklers, all shields of mighty men.

Depending on the cultural context, the expressions of male-to-male neck kissing, particularly among family members, are considered appropriately understood, where any sensuality is instantly recoiled and seen as perverted.

Of course, these lovemaking principles are all deliberately designed to relate to this study’s subject of her breasts’ response, signifying the overarching response of her heart beneath her breasts being healed from her wound from Eden.

Luk 15:20  And he [the Prodigal son] arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him.

Gen 33:4  And Esau ran to meet him [Jacob], and embraced him, and fell on his neck, and kissed him: and they wept.

Exo 4:27  And the LORD said to Aaron, Go into the wilderness to meet Moses. And he went, and met him in the mount of God, and kissed him.

Paul and the Church were aware that Nero in Rome was likely to execute him. They, both male and female, manifested their affection virtuously, without any conscious awareness of the absurdity of their embraces and kisses being regarded as inappropriate, starkly contrasting with the circumstances. These were brotherly gestures of love; if interpreted amorously, they could have been considered offensive.

Act 20:37  And they all wept sore, and fell on Paul’s neck, and kissed him,
Act 20:38  Sorrowing most of all for the words which he spake, that they should see his face no more. And they accompanied him unto the ship.

Pauls’ ambassadorship to Rome was a death sentence, as is our daily ambassadorship in Christ, spiritually.

As Christ does to us, the husband who lets his face linger close to his wife, who honours and respects him, and actively creates intimacy with calm confidence, creates tension in her so thick it lingers for hours, even days, and the Bride, hopefully forever. Here’s your rule. As does Christ to his Bride, let your masculine presence command without forcing intimacy; it is akin to Christ driving out the beasts of our land, little by little (Exo 2329-30). In our patience, we possess our spiritual land within. Like Solomon building tension with his Shulamite Bride, let your face get close naturally as you draw her in. Breathe steady. Let the warmth of your skin graze hers for just a moment, then pull back as if nothing happened. That single brush is enough to haunt her.

Isa 30:27  Behold, the name of the LORD cometh from far, burning with his anger, and the burden thereof is heavy: his lips are full of indignation, and his tongue as a devouring fire:
Isa 30:28  And his breath, as an overflowing stream, shall reach to the midst of the neck, to sift the nations with the sieve of vanity: and there shall be a bridle in the jaws of the people, causing them to err.
Isa 30:29  Ye shall have a song, as in the night when a holy solemnity is kept; and gladness of heart, as when one goeth with a pipe to come into the mountain of the LORD, to the mighty One of Israel.

The overflowing stream is like Christ’s word, which deeply stirs her heart, her breasts, and her navel—symbolising her stomach and loins. It flows back and forth through these highly sensitive parts of her body, often making her chest flush all the way up to the middle of her neck. For a righteous wife, that power has “sifted her vanity” of demanding that he worship her, now totally reversed, where she worships him, evoking a breathtaking arousal she never knew.

Let’s clear up a massive misunderstanding about what happens during the hug. Most men kill the moment with words. “The wise in heart will receive commandments: but a prating fool shall fall – Pro 10:8. But shun profane and vain babblings: for they will increase unto more ungodliness – 2Ti 2:16”. They hug and instantly say something. You smell nice. I missed you. Or worse, a nervous joke. And the second they do, the hug loses its charge. But the man who hugs in silence, who holds her without saying a word, that man makes her lose her balance because silence forces her to imagine what he’s feeling. Women are addicted to meaning. When you stay silent, you starve her of clues and amplify her wonderment for your intentions. And that uncertainty, as it does with the Bride today, turns into an obsession to run after her Lord. Silence strongly impacts the Elect when they are deeply in considered prayer, searching their hearts for authenticity and truth. It is a place where we are far more attuned to hearing the thunder of God’s word, reverberating in our breasts, ravishing our hearts.

Rev 8:1  And when he had opened the seventh seal, there was silence in heaven about the space of half an hour. 
Rev 8:2  And I saw the seven angels which stood before God; and to them were given seven trumpets.
Rev 8:3  And another angel came and stood at the altar, having a golden censer; and there was given unto him much incense, that he should offer it with the prayers of all saints upon the golden altar which was before the throne.
Rev 8:4  And the smoke of the incense, which came with the prayers of the saints, ascended up before God out of the angel’s hand.
Rev 8:5  And the angel took the censer, and filled it with fire of the altar, and cast it into the earth: and there were voices, and thunderings, and lightnings, and an earthquake.

For a carnal husband, as does Christ, our Husband,

Pro 25:11  A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.
Pro 25:12  As an earring of gold, and an ornament of fine gold, so is a wise reprover upon an obedient ear [of a submissive wife, honouring her husband’s authority].

Eze 37:9  Then said he unto me, Prophesy unto the wind, prophesy, son of man, and say to the wind, Thus saith the Lord GOD; Come from the four winds, O breath, and breathe upon these slain, that they may live. 

(Continuing the thought from the previous paragraph about intentionally creating anticipation…)

For example, ‘A hand delicately placed; an unexpected touch on her…; a light breath near the lobe of her ear’, all announce the like perfection of the moment of sensuality that “apples of gold in pictures of silver” evoke for your spiritual consideration. It is likened to God’s breath upon our slain old man, enliving our members.

The embrace in which he said nothing, merely exhaling slowly and steadily, can arouse profound anticipation. Is he thinking about me? Is he turned on? Does he want to kiss me? Why isn’t he saying anything? That loop persists thoughts beyond the embrace, following the Bride throughout the day spiritually. It is a husband’s response to his wife’s copy of his architecturally sensually designed home. This is his rule. He doesn’t fill the silence. Doesn’t break the tension with words. Using the three principles of promoting arousal, he envelops her, holds steady, breathes slowly, and lets the moment breathe for 2,000 years. When a carnal husband stops trying to explain himself, she’s the one who will recount him in her head over and over until her soul pants (Psa 42:1, Son 7:10). Carnally, (somewhat exaggeratedly for effect) most men hug like statues, arms stiff, hands frozen in place, safe, polite, forgettable. But when a husband moves with intention, as does Christ, even in the smallest way, it changes everything. It builds agonising anticipation, where the slightest touch anywhere will instantly answer. In that she has spent her youth building her house for Him, she is already passively aroused, whereby she is not, like an artist’s impression of a harlot, sprawled back, waiting for him. Her mind and body, wholly devoted to Him, are naturally alive, sparkling as wine accelerates, ready to be sprung. To vastly advance the process, she says,

Son 1:2  Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.

One of the most charming touches during a snuggle is when his hand gently slides just slightly across the top of the back or shoulder blade as he pulls away. That slight movement feels intentional, as if he meant it. A slow hand sliding across her shoulder doesn’t seem accidental; it feels like he wants her to notice (Son 4:1-5. 9-15… in the SoS, everywhere!). That tiny shift can turn a simple hug into something more charged and meaningful. And because it’s subtle, her mind replays it, trying to decide, “Did he mean that? Was that just a hug or something more?” He mustn’t stay rigid; let your hand move slowly and deliberately as you break the hug. A gentle slide across the shoulder or back as you release her tells her body (indicative of the Church) the hug isn’t over, even when it is. That lingering touch creates a ghostly sensation that she’ll keep feeling when he’s gone—and assertively complements her spiritual building of a home for him by his design. Similar to a physical marriage, spiritual lovemaking with our Husband, Christ, is a delicately orchestrated process of psychological, gentle persuasion, involving mutual pull and push from both parties.

Son 5:6  I opened to my beloved; but my beloved had withdrawn himself, and was gone: my soul failed when he spake: I sought him, but I could not find him; I called him, but he gave me no answer.

Deu 33:12  And of Benjamin he said, The beloved of the LORD shall dwell in safety by him; and the LORD shall cover him all the day long, and he shall dwell between his shoulders

Thus, our Lord has designed our bodies, representatively female, to respond to every sensual touch and to inspire us through righteous passions to carry the weight of our calling together, moving forward with strength and purpose embedded in our breast and heart.

Again, the imagery is designed to keep us focused on the incredible meaning that her breasts represent, meaning the ravishment she feels in her heart, and is phenomenally central to the Song of Solomon’s initiation of our Lord’s love for us that Solomon demonstrates carnally in the SoS. If he didn’t ravish our hearts, as he hasn’t, Babylon, for his Song of Songs, we would have never felt any passion to leave Babylon.

Act 7:47  But Solomon built him an house.
Act 7:48  Howbeit the most High dwelleth not in temples made with hands; as saith the prophet,
Act 7:49  Heaven is my throne, and earth is my footstool: what house will ye build me? saith the Lord: or what is the place of my rest[… hopefully all night, betwixt her breasts. Emblematic of her youthful ravishment for her Groom]
Act 7:50  Hath not my hand made all these things?

Meaning, has not Christ designed a carnal wife’s cunningly crafted body’s sensual responses to mirror the Body of Christ, his Wife’s responses to Him, he so earnestly thirsts?

Some negative aspects of touch:

A specialist in marital relations, with my inclusions of spiritual associations, says that every woman secretly wants both strength and tenderness. Most men get it wrong by being all-or-nothing. Too soft and it feels weak, like you’re unsure of yourself. Too firm and it doesn’t feel very nice, like you’re trying to prove something. But the man who blends the two creates the kind of hug that makes women melt. A firm arm around her back makes her feel protected and contained. But a softer hand, maybe on the shoulder or lightly stroking the upper back, adds a layer of care and intimacy. That combination tells her you’re strong enough to hold her, but soft enough not to hurt her. And that balance is addictive. Here’s your rule. Mix your energies. Hold her steady with one arm, firm and secure, while letting the other hand move with subtle softness. The contrast creates tension that her body can’t resolve. And tension is what keeps her craving more. This is the part that changes everything. This is the one wives can’t resist. The hug that makes her crave you when you’re not even there. It’s not about holding longer. It’s about letting go first, even though she’s not ready. Breaking the hug, even when her body still wants it, creates an ache she can’t shake. Women, representative of churches, are wired to desire what’s withheld. If you give everything instantly, she enjoys it but doesn’t obsess over it. But when you stop short, when you end the hug before she does, you leave her suspended in tension. [That tension fuels Shulamite-like imagination, somewhat word-for-word poetically expressed throughout the entire SoS]. She replays the hug, wondering why you pulled away first (Son 5:5-6).

Did you want her, but control yourself? Did you feel the same spark she did? Husbands, here’s your rule. Always be the one to end the hug first. Not abruptly, not coldly, but with calm certainty. Pull away with confidence like you’re the one setting the pace. That small act of restraint tells her body the hug isn’t hers to control—it’s yours, she was made for you (1Co 11:8-10, Joh 15:16). And the moment she realises that, a righteous wife won’t stop thinking about you. Most men ruin the afterglow of a hug. They pull away, look down, maybe check their phone, or mumble something awkward. But the man who lets go and then locks eyes for just one second longer than feels comfortable leaves a mark that burns. That stare makes her feel like the hug didn’t end. It makes her feel like he’s still holding her even when his arms are gone. Eye contact is an act of intimacy [Son 4:9; 6:5]. It’s vulnerability. And when paired with touch, it becomes electric. It is akin to saying, “For God knows that in the day you eat of it, your eyes will be opened and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” – Gen 3:5. [Indicative of the SoS, and without previewing the entire Song…] A tender enveloping embrace followed by that deliberate lingering look feels like desire. It forces her to imagine everything you’re not saying out loud. What is he thinking? Did he feel that, too? Why is he looking at me like that? Here’s your rule. Don’t rush to kill the tension. After you release her, hold her eyes just one heartbeat longer than usual. Not a staredown, not a glare, just a calm, steady presence. Then let her break it. That one second will stick in her mind far longer than any words you could have said. Here’s the bottom line. It was never just about the embosom (embrace). It’s about the frame, the restraint, the masculine, Christ’s presence that turns even the slightest touch into something unforgettable. (In these intimacies, always think like Solomon and the Shulamite in the SoS…) When you draw her in slowly instead of snatching. When you place your hand on her lower back, where Christ guides our walk from our loins, with calm authority. When you hold one beat longer than expected. When you let your cheek brush hers, and your breath graze her neck. When you stay silent and let tension build. When you slide your hand as you pull away. When you mix firm strength with gentle softness, and when you break first before she’s ready, you’re creating psychological imprints that make her replay you for days. As Christ does with us, try this approach the next time you hug her. Slow down your draw in. Place your hand on her lower back, not her shoulders. Hold one second longer than feels normal. Let your face get close enough that she feels your warmth. Stay completely silent. Let your hands slide slowly as you release. Mix firm and gentle pressure. Always break the hug first. Lock eyes for one beat after you let go. Watch how she leans back in, how her breath catches, how she keeps looking at you differently. That’s when you and your Shulamite Bride know that it is working [end].

And, who would have known it—arousing touch leads to sex, that indispensable bonding mechanism phenomenally essential for a vibrant and happy marriage, and is so crucial for men, and essentially, husbands. The Husband, Christ, ultimately sets that aforementioned and minimally expressed pattern for carnal husbands, by initiating spiritual intimacy, symbolised carnally by sexual flirtations and coitions. For the wife to be truly loved by her husband, it is essential. Like the Shulamite, she uses His ‘design of the home she has built’ in every intimate encounter to engage those sparkling female emotions she celebrates. Most intimacies shouldn’t necessarily conclude coition, yet her daily connections should be enthusiastically engaged—like newborn babes, desiring the sincere milk of the word, and David, and we, fearlessly running forward into battle.

Who Initiates Sexual Activity, and the Significance of Its Initiation

Ultimately, Christ is the spiritual initiator of the Bride’s intimacy; her job is to respond with youthful vivacity. Yet, in the flesh, what does the emblematic Old Covenant intimate response look like in our carnal marriages?

In many marriages, who initiates sex can seem a highly trivial subject to get so upset about—being no more significant than who opened the new butter before the old one was finished. Nevertheless, considering the frequent emotional distress it engenders, it appears to hold considerable significance. It lies at the core of many issues, serves as the catalyst for hostile disputes and resentment, can influence the long-term well-being of young children, and often leads couples to seek therapy or, more frequently, to divorce courts.

At the heart of the scene are the subtle, often tense moments when, late at night and surrounded by darkness, one person’s hand gently reaches out and hesitantly touches the other’s body. This gesture, signalling a wish for intimacy or comfort, can feel unexpectedly complicated because it’s less about physical acts and more about the deep human need to feel wanted and desired. The willingness to initiate sexual activity may serve as an indicator of one’s appreciation within the overall relationship – and therefore whether a couple remains a going concern or not. For an individual to neither initiate nor respond half-heartedly to not caresses is equivalent to asserting that they cannot possibly love their partner. In reality, a lack of initiation or response can signify numerous things. It may, on occasion, simply indicate exhaustion following a long day of childcare or office work. Occasionally, an untouched hand is merely an untouched hand. The fundamental issue in the uncertain darkness of the bedroom is not an absence of reciprocation per se; rather, it is the manner in which ambiguity is interpreted: how assumptions are formed without discussion, and how significant offences are taken without the topic first being addressed.

The Old Covenant reflects our secular marriages and the disgrace stemming from an insufficient willingness to critically examine the reasons behind our feelings, leading to the shame of unreciprocated love, thereby addressing the fundamental issue of the lack of enthusiastic intimacy through lively communication. Many people, especially wives, often find it challenging to start discussions about sexual intimacy and issues related to withheld affection, which can lead to immense inner turmoil and a sense of wonder for the one lacking intimacy, whether their spouse ever loved me, and not wanting to face that question can make things even more challenging.

Unreciprocated touch becomes properly dangerous when it comes into contact with a high degree of doubting one’s motives or self-hatred on the part of the person who has dared to slide their hand across. What might seem like just a fleeting or innocent sign of disinterest can sometimes be silently and automatically interpreted as something much more serious: as evidence that the other person finds you truly unappealing. Ideally, if we loved ourselves enough, we would recognise what to do when we reach out with a gesture and don’t receive much in return. We would try to talk things over with kindness and calmness, aiming to understand what might be going on.

Pro 23:7  For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee.

Gal 6:9  And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
Gal 6:10  As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.

If the signs clearly show a deep lack of interest or emotional connection, and, as routinely and dishonourably done in Babylon, the relationship is not considered viable. After all, as typically happens in Babylonian marriages, the vast majority of us, by God’s design, inevitably end up sharing a bed with an emotionally or physically withholding spouse—inevitably a wife—Christ did. Increasingly, Babylonian marriages perceive that there is nothing wrong, or at least nonchalantly unfortunate, with sticking around with such a spouse. Following is what Christ says on the subject:

Mat 19:8-9 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Consequently,

Col 3:19  Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
Col 3:18  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.

1Co 7:3  Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
1Co 7:4  The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
1Co 7:5  Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

For an Elect, and to many orthodox Christians’ credit, these are not options open to us when we feel overly ashamed for always being the one to initiate intimacy. Our unresponsive partners exacerbate feelings of unacceptability, leaving us bitter, silent, and fragile (Col 3:19). Childhood trauma can lead to a history of low self-esteem (Rom 12:3), making it exceedingly challenging for us to effectively voice complaints about mistreatment, let alone desert Christ’s values and leave and seek more nurturing partners elsewhere. As individuals who harbour self-critical sentiments within romantic relationships, we often find ourselves unable to articulate, with the appropriate composure and strategic patience, that we feel rejected, seek understanding, and desire change. Instead, we may choose to remain silent, risking infidelity, or we may erupt in anger, thereby ensuring that our message goes unheard. We lack the courage to interpret the signals correctly and to skillfully alter the trajectory of the relationship accordingly.

In the tensions around unreciprocated touch, we catch sight of a more general problem in love: the difficulties created when we aren’t able to ask for what we want in a relationship, when we suffer from a sense that we don’t deserve to be content and cannot handle frustration or respond to our misery adequately. We should not leave the untouched hand for too long in the darkness. We should dare to switch on a soft light, express our pain and consider our options without shame.

By design, Christ encountered all of those adverse reactions from his first wife during his time with her in the wilderness. Even when he analogously switched on the perceived harsh light of his word without the holy spirit, she, signifying our same response before being dragged to Him, was designed not to consistently see a good physical reason to submit to Him.

Again, those marital dynamics are phenomenally critical to what the Bride of Christ experienced carnally for our reflections spiritually, and all emanating from the significations of her breasts mirroring her curse!

Either spouse’s initiation of sexual intimacy should be a daily semi-passive expression in a million different ways of home building. It shouldn’t strike fear in a wife’s mind, thinking that it will always lead to a session of full-blown torrid sensuality right now! It is, and, as the Bride daily expresses, her crystal-clear jasper-like light is always on and alert to ministrations, quite the opposite of control; her twelve doorways never shut day or night, signalling sexual and thus spiritual openness of her Husband’s indwelling.

Rev 21:11  Having the glory of God: and her light was like unto a stone most precious, even like a jasper stone, clear as crystal;
Rev 21:12  And had a wall great and high, and had twelve gates, and at the gates twelve angels, and names written thereon, which are the names of the twelve tribes of the children of Israel:

85% of carnal wives do not experience spontaneous desire until they are ‘awakened’, and by God’s design, she does not require arousal to initiate openness; she merely needs to personify enthusiastic reception (Son 1:2-4). She doesn’t wait to ‘be in the mood’; she only needs to ensure an open heart for her husband (Represented entirely in the SoS), which, in turn, should guarantee that her lagging arousal awakens—indicative of the Bride today and the brightly increasing light of spiritual understanding. Nonetheless, husbands often experience ingratiating shame for merely wanting to feel fulfilled sexually by their wives, in the hope that she, too, would delight in his highly physical, demonstrative adoration of her.

If the Bride waited to be “in the mood” for espoused intimacies, her nature would characterise Old Israel’s emblematic ‘bedroom in the wilderness’. She is exhausted from the incredible hormonally driven events ever since leaving Egypt. Now, her Husband wants to amorously engage her with His word; in New Covenant terms, to wash her with His word. She has a certain love, a skittish gratitude for the incredible miracles he has done for her. Compared to her upcoming neighbours’ dashing paramours, her Lord isn’t sentimentally attractive. He just has a strength she can’t identify and do without, yet powerfully resists.

Eze 23:20  For she [Aholah the elder, and Aholibah her sister – Old Israel and the younger Bride today] doted upon their paramours, whose flesh is as the flesh of asses, and whose issue is like the issue of horses.

She is waiting for an amatory spark and an impulsive urge associated with young love, but it just isn’t there. He and she feel like it is trying to light a wet match. She cannot see how his supposed love is to light her fire within.

Upon seeing Hollywood movies, in a carnal marriage, most wives think that their sexual drive is broken, that they are frigid, and that their sexuality is dead. She may muse that she is asexual or lesbian. Unbeknownst to her, she is falling victim to the spontaneous desire myth. Men and women have been conditioned by profit-driven media to believe that sexual desire should instinctively overwhelm us with insatiable lust out of the blue—similar to her experience during early puberty—common to all males and females, inevitably leading them to become “old in adulteries”, “at ease” with many lovers (Eze 23:40-49). Typically, as Aholah and Aholabah discovered, when their biological and hormone-driven youthful libido is waning and worked to death with no lasting reward, such a woman, as are most women, wonders if her ‘spontaneous desire’ was ever a reality. In Babylon, she joins yoga or Tantra classes to regain her youthful vigour, and yes, they can have the desired effect, but they can also, potentially and insidiously, absorb Eastern evil spirituality. What she doesn’t know is that God designed women to have responsive desire!… of course, emanating from her signatory ‘breasts’.

Responsive desire means that her body does not have a penchant for intimacy until her mind and spirit are already engaged in it. Unlike her husband’s arousal, her body isn’t like a light switch that can be flicked instantly on. She is more like an oven that needs to be preheated, but the effort is too much. Nonetheless, she knows that to satiate her hunger, she must prepare the ingredients—in Shulamite terms, it is her everyday preparation of ‘building her house’ in carefully managed passive and not-so-passive intimacies until her husband pleases—a seemingly misogynistic dictum that infuriates her Babylonian sisters (Son 2:7, 3:5, and 8:4… particularly Gen 37:9-10). Awaiting the desire to emerge can feel like a lifelong sentence; relying on a husband she already possesses, coupled with her subdued manner of playful, youthful flirtation, only reinforces his fear of once more witnessing her unexpressive eyes indicating rejection. She is waiting solely on spontaneous desire. The solution for all wives feels counterintuitive: She must initiate the Shulamite enthusiasm of not waiting to be aroused, and delight in taking action to get impassioned as a daily habit, as does the Bride with Christ. She throws out the old, symbolically and literally adulterous system so that her husband, who is always ready, as is Christ, sees her welcome and, in his timeliness, lights her responsive fire.

Just as Christ chose the joints in his Bride, so, too, does a carnal husband choose his wife, having a strong desire for sexual intimacy, portraying Christ’s same immense desire for spiritual intimacy with his Bride. When perceived rejection is triggered, even by the slightest indication, it often leads carnal husbands to withdraw out of concern for appearing creepy and overly dependent. Such characteristics are incongruent with the qualities of a calm, well-grounded husband who is supposedly portraying a Christ-like presence. He thus goes about life stoically, as if nothing is amiss, appearing in control. At the same time, bitterness or weariness from trying to improve the relationship eats away at his commitment to even bother; reminded that his wife and family will be against him, as Old Israel was with Christ, he thus learns patiently to endure—filling up behind the same afflictions as did Christ. Failure to do so is repeating what Adam did with Eve, and he was cast out of the Promised Land, symbolic of our miscarriage of inheritance in Christ.

Luk 9:62  And Jesus said unto him, No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.

Luk 14:26  If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.

This extensive study of the meaning of carnal wives’ breasts since Eden portrays the Lord’s first wife’s disposition towards him, a type of ‘ministration of death’ and thus “destroying” (Breasts H7699 from H7736 – 1. (Qal) to ruin, destroy, spoil, devastate) their marriage. It was graphically displayed that her spirit was disconnected from his word; she couldn’t sustain ravishment for his commands because she wasn’t given to mix it with faith. Consequently, she couldn’t rest from her work of telling her Husband how she wants to be ravished by signified leeks, melons, onions, and all kinds of meat and dainties, because her focus was on material wealth and status, steering her self-serving sensualities to sit as a queen being waited upon (Rev 18:7).

Heb 4:1  Let us therefore fear, lest, a promise being left us of entering into his rest, any of you should seem to come short of it.
Heb 4:2  For unto us was the gospel preached, as well as unto them: but the word preached did not profit them, not being mixed with faith in them that heard it.
Heb 4:3  For we which have believed do enter into rest, as he said, As I have sworn in my wrath, if they shall enter into my rest: although the works were finished from the foundation of the world.

2Co 3:3  Forasmuch as ye are manifestly declared to be the epistle of Christ ministered by us, written not with ink, but with the Spirit of the living God; not in tables of stone, but in fleshy tables of the heart.
2Co 3:4  And such trust have we through Christ to God-ward:
2Co 3:5  Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think any thing as of ourselves; but our sufficiency is of God;
2Co 3:6  Who also hath made us able ministers of the new testament; not of the letter, but of the spirit: for the letter killeth, but the spirit giveth life.
2Co 3:7  But if the ministration of death, written and engraven in stones, was glorious, so that the children of Israel could not stedfastly behold the face of Moses for the glory of his countenance; which glory was to be done away: [G2673, ‘katargeo’]

2Co 3:12  Seeing then that we have such hope, we use great plainness of speech:
2Co 3:13  And not as Moses, which put a vail over his face, that the children of Israel could not stedfastly look to the end of that which is abolished [G2673, ‘katargeo’]:
2Co 3:14  But their minds were blinded: for until this day remaineth the same vail untaken away in the reading of the old testament; which vail is done away in Christ.
2Co 3:15  But even unto this day, when Moses is read, the vail is upon their heart.
2Co 3:16  Nevertheless when it shall turn to the Lord, the vail shall be taken away.
2Co 3:17  Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty [From sin and “the minstration of death”].
2Co 3:18  But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.

The Truth About Her Body that Only The Bride Understands

So, what’s the takeaway here? Here’s the point: Just as the male pudenda is a man’s seat of righteous and unrighteous ravishment, so, too, yet more extensively do the female nipple and breast influence every other part of the female body, which is layered with profound spiritual symbols representing our former ways of rejecting our Husband’s word. Carnally, both genders’ seats of desire symbolically compete for control, trying to govern, resulting in a destructive sexual divide that echoes spiritually. They encompass emotional, psychological, biological, and symbolic aspects of the Bride’s walk in Christ, all of which correspond spiritually. For the Elect, it’s not just about sex, nor just about motherhood. It’s about her experience in transition from harlotry to becoming the virtuous Bride of Christ. In Babylon, wives are ruled by romanticism while deemphasising sex, and men, ruled by sex, deemphasise romanticism. Sex cannot effectively and authentically occur without emotional connection, and emotional connection cannot happen for the man without sex representing Christ spiritually; both are starved of connection! If marriages are not sexual, neither is the Shulamite spiritually to Christ, and neither is he to her. Women, typified by Solomon’s 1,000 wives, get an emotional connection with their ‘whore’ sisterhood, the 40,000-plus Babylonian churches; husbands, representing Christ, are left out. When wives and their husbands learn to honour those experiences spiritually, their bodies become more than just for fleshy lust—it becomes a home, the Temple of God. A sexless marriage is a touchless marriage, as is Orthodox Christianity without the holy spirit.

Gal 5:16  This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
Gal 5:17  For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.

In contrast, the Bride’s connection in Christ’s truth is what is spiritually romantically ravishing for her, which Christ finds tremendously arousing! It results in both of them singing in harmony the Song of Songs. I’m sure that we understand why sex represented in the “natural” is lusted by confused men in Babylon, and crucial to righteous husbands, since the latter signifies our Husband Christ’s imperative spiritual intimacies with his Wife. She now has an exceptional purpose for the reason, and with vivacious elegance to delight her Husband with those beguiling emotions!

Breasts Emblematic Rulership, continued…

Due to Adam’s submission to Eve, all men are now ruled more singularly by unrighteous sexual desires representing twisted self-serving doctrines; if correctly and righteously established, they mysteriously point to Christ’s spiritual desire for his Bride, the washing of her by the Word. However, following Adam and Eve’s exile from Eden, Eve is emotionally traumatised by her symbolically bruised teats and pressed breasts representing her wounded pride, humiliated for having ruled Adam, a deep scar lasting 7,000 years of marital disharmony into the Eighth Day of creation.

Both parties, influenced by their gender biases—more pronounced in females—view life circumstances and decision-making through the lens of their emotions. However, the female’s innate over-emphasis on emotional feelings, profoundly emanating from beneath her breasts, when used positively and authentically in marriage, is by all easily ensnared males invariably experienced by a husband as a charming and seductive trait, indeed. In positions of leadership, law, and governance, it often evokes immature judgments (Isaiah 3:12), particularly now through her illustrative authority in church doctrines.

An emotionally led person, typified by children and, seemingly to Eve, insultingly, now represented by women, when directed by an authority not to do something that their emotions stimulate them to do, like a child disobeying a father because he said that they can’t have a doughnut, feels deeply offended and wounded in her heart and breasts, that she should be told what to do; to “submit” to a God-designated higher authority in their husbands supposedly righteous authority. They feel as though they have been ruled unfairly, as if they have been struck with a rod, causing them to feel unloved, unappreciated, unintelligent, and voiceless, particularly by the command to “submit” to her husband, since it means to be in subordination, suggestive of enslavement to his (hopefully righteous) authority; to all women, and particularly wives, a most irksome and insulting command.

Eph 5:22  Wives, submit [G5293] yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 

G5293 = 1. To arrange under, to subordinate. Obedience; obedient; subject; under.

Those meanings evoke a demeaning element, making the one created, so beautiful in every respect, feel deeply insulted by her perceived lack of intelligence. A humiliating and insufferable seven-thousand-year temporary measure to humble mankind.

Typically, a Babylonian wife’s response to being ‘washed with the word’ by her husband — rejecting the claim that this is an act of love — is met with indignation, pride, and underlying humiliation, as she feels she is being treated like a child due to her perception of a reprimand. Though executed lovingly, their egocentrism rarely sees it that way. Young girls, who are truly cherished as ‘Daddy’s princess’ and sources of joy, and who mature into women, are particularly susceptible to cognitive dissonance. This occurs when they emotionally interpret their reality through their highly sensory bodies, which tyrannise their thinking and cause their firmly held beliefs to seem unquestionably true; their every sensory organ’s response, written in their faces and body language, tells them so! — and a husband better not argue with that! And Adam didn’t.

1Co 2:4  And my speech and my preaching was not with enticing words [Demonstratively, Eve’s] of man’s wisdom, but in demonstration of the spirit and of power: [Adam rejected]
1Co 2:5  That your faith should not stand in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God.

Upon her eating of the forbidden fruit, Eve may not have been in tears for being caught having listened to ‘her better judgement’; nonetheless, Satan knew precisely how to get to Adam, and it was by that methodology mentioned above by women typically testing a courting male and always a husband for her to feel the security of his power and authority that is strangely a little bit sensually arousing—a vital element of intimacy the Eve’s of the world now unconsciously struggle to recapture; overruled by her perception by the more believable feminised truth, indicative of the 1,000 ‘girlfriends’ reinforcing self-indoctrinations of Solomon’s court. It all empowers the most unfeminine nature of violently wresting a husband’s authority in the ugliness of contemporary feminism, causing her husband to withdraw. She believes that marriage is all about her, and how he doesn’t understand her; quite the opposite of the bride’s impassioned desire to understand her Husband.

Adam’s anguished abdication of righteous authority over his wife, Eve, is necessary to mirror humanity’s mandatory insurrection and whoreish rejection of Christ, establishing her Queen-like rulership over the Beast of humanity. Like a party trick, on her emblematic head is written Mystery Babylon the Great, the Mother of Harlots and Abominations of the Earth (Rev 17:5), insensibly representative of man’s temporary coup over God’s throne.

Isa 46:9  Remember the former things of old: for I am God, and there is none else; I am God, and there is none like me, 
Isa 46:10  Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times the things that are not yet done, saying, My counsel shall stand, and I will do all my pleasure

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Pro 16:1-10 “The LORD is gracious, and full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy” https://www.iswasandwillbe.com/pro-161-10-the-lord-is-gracious-and-full-of-compassion-slow-to-anger-and-of-great-mercy/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=pro-161-10-the-lord-is-gracious-and-full-of-compassion-slow-to-anger-and-of-great-mercy Thu, 17 Jul 2025 04:10:56 +0000 https://www.iswasandwillbe.com/?p=33670 Audio Download

Pro 16:1-10 “The LORD is gracious, and full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy”

(Aired on July 17, 2025)

Pro 16:1  The preparations of the heart in man, and the answer of the tongue, is from the LORD.
Pro 16:2
  All the ways of a man are clean in his own eyes; but the LORD weigheth the spirits.
Pro 16:3
  Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established.
Pro 16:4
  The LORD hath made all things for himself: yea, even the wicked for the day of evil.
Pro 16:5
  Every one that is proud in heart is an abomination to the LORD: though hand join in hand, he shall not be unpunished.
Pro 16:6
  By mercy and truth iniquity is purged: and by the fear of the LORD men depart from evil.
Pro 16:7
  When a man’s ways please the LORD, he maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him.
Pro 16:8
  Better is a little with righteousness than great revenues without right.
Pro 16:9
  A man’s heart deviseth his way: but the LORD directeth his steps.
Pro 16:10
  A divine sentence is in the lips of the king: his mouth transgresseth not in judgment.

God is working a desire in the hearts of His children to be pleasing in our Lord’s sight (Heb 13:20-21) who is “full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy”, and the road toward the completion of God’s workmanship is being accomplished through His judgement upon us (Heb 12:6, 1Pe 4:17) as Christ works in us both to will and to do of God’s good pleasure (Php 2:12-13, Col 1:24). Giving the kingdom of God to us in earnest is God’s good pleasure to do today through Christ, as we are raised in heavenly places (Luk 12:32, Eph 2:6).

Heb 13:20  Now the God of peace, that brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant,
Heb 13:21  Make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is wellpleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.

In this chapter of proverbs there is a lot of instruction on how the Lord is working in the lives of His children to develop within us this gracious, full of compassion, slow to anger and of great mercy, mind, that is the very nature of our Father in heaven and Jesus Christ.

This is eternal life, “that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent”(Joh 17:3).

When we know someone we understand them and we perceive that they know us, or rather in the case of our Father and Christ, we are known of them as a result of having their life within us (Gal 4:9, Joh 14:20).

Gal 4:9  But now, after that ye have known God, or rather are known of God, how turn ye again to the weak and beggarly elements, whereunto ye desire again to be in bondage?

Joh 14:20  At that day ye shall know that I am in my Father, and ye in me, and I in you.

What replaces the weak and beggarly elements within our hearts and minds is accomplished through a life that is being matured through ordained works that we are admonished to be careful to patiently keep in God’s service (Tit 3:8). The works of faith that God accomplishes in us through Christ create a foundation that stands up against the iniquity that will abound at the end of this age and produce nothing but dead works that don’t acknowledge God’s complete sovereignty over all things (Heb 6:1, 1Ti 6:19).

Tit 3:8  This is a faithful saying, and these things I will that thou affirm constantly, that they which have believed in God (Joh 6:28-29) might be careful to maintain good works. These things are good and profitable unto men.

Heb 6:1  Therefore leaving the principles of the doctrine of Christ, let us go on unto perfection; not laying again the foundation of repentance from dead works, and of faith toward God (Heb 6:1-3, Joh 8:31-32, Joh 8:36-37,  Jas 2:19)

1Ti 6:19  Laying up in store for themselves a good foundation against the time to come (These verses Mat 24:8-12, 2Ti 3:1-4, describe the time to come and has already come for those who are dead in their graves, awaiting the first resurrection), that they may lay hold on eternal life. [through patient continuance in well doing Luk 21:19, Heb 10:36-38, Rom 2:6-7, Luk 8:15].

Luk 21:19  In your patience possess ye your souls.

Heb 10:36  For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise.
Heb 10:37  For yet a little while, and he that shall come will come, and will not tarry.
Heb 10:38  Now the just shall live by faith: but if any man draw back, my soul shall have no pleasure in him.

Rom 2:6  Who will render to every man according to his deeds:
Rom 2:7  To them who by patient continuance in well doing seek for glory and honour and immortality, eternal life:

Luk 8:15  But that on the good ground are they, which in an honest and good heart, having heard the word, keep it, and bring forth fruit with patience.

The preparation of the heart of God’s children is what is first and foremost in the mind of the Creator who is preparing our hearts so that we can worship Him in spirit and in truth (Joh 4:23-24). That right relationship is something that only God can form within us through Christ, and we rejoice in knowing that what He seeks out by the counsel of His will, He will find (Isa 14:27, Job 23:13, Rom 5:10).

Pro 16:1  The preparations of the heart in man, and the answer of the tongue, is from the LORD.

What part of this proverb leaves room for us to say that we have free will? It takes a miracle from God to have our eyes open and see this straightforward statement from Him that tells us that all things are being worked according to the counsel God’s own will, both to will and to do. “The preparations of the heart in man, and the answer of the tongue” (Eph 1:11-12, Php 2:12-13), is what He has determined to do in the lives of His creation, “and who can turn him?”

Job 23:13  But he is in one mind, and who can turn him? and what his soul desireth, even that he doeth.

Pro 16:2  All the ways of a man are clean in his own eyes; but the LORD weigheth the spirits.

Our sins are being purged and cleansed by God, and many of them are hidden, and some are overt, which we express with the saying, sins of omission and sins of commission (Psa 19:12). Some men’s sins (Lord willing us today if we are being judged and dragged to Christ 1Pe 4:17Joh 6:44, Heb 12:6) “are open beforehand [commission], going before to judgment; and some men they follow after” (1Ti 5:24). This sinful flesh is a means to an end and as the carnality is burnt out of us (Tit 2:12-13), then the good works become manifest, “Likewise also the good works of some are manifest beforehand; and they that are otherwise cannot be hid”(1Ti 5:25).

Psa 19:12  Who can understand his errors? cleanse thou me from secret faults.
Psa 19:13  Keep back thy servant also from presumptuous (Rom 11:20) sins; let them not have dominion over me: then shall I be upright, and I shall be innocent from the great transgression.[self-righteousness Php 3:9]

1Ti 5:24  Some men’s sins are open beforehand, going before to judgment; and some men they follow after.
1Ti 5:25  Likewise also the good works of some are manifest beforehand; and they that are otherwise cannot be hid.

If we judge ourselves in this age, it is because the LORD is working that work within us and “weigheth the spirits” within us today. God’s judgements in our lives bring us to see ourselves for what we really are, leading us to repentance (Rom 2:24), and that is the only way we can receive a reward: from that ground of a broken and contrite heart that is being saved in this life and learning of His righteousness as a result of His judgements in our earth (Isa 26:9), otherwise our judgement will be in the great white throne judgement (1Co 3:14-15).

Pro 16:3  Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established.

We commit not just our good works unto the LORD, but we also confess our faults and go humbly before our advocate in time of need and in doing so our “thoughts shall be established” (1Jn 2:1, 1Pe 5:6-9).

1Jn 2:1  My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous:

1Pe 5:6  Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time:
1Pe 5:7  Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
1Pe 5:8  Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:
1Pe 5:9  Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.

Committing our good works to the LORD requires much tribulation in this life (Act 14:22), that we must go through in order to be those who first trust in Him (Eph 1:12, 2Co 1:9).

Eph 1:12  That we should be to the praise of his glory, who first trusted in Christ.

2Co 1:9  But we had the sentence of death in ourselves, that we should not trust in ourselves, but in God which raiseth the dead:

Our flesh naturally wants to supersede God’s will and not trust him or commit our ways to him (Pro 14:12, Pro 3:5-9), and to whatever degree we are yet conformed to this world, (1Jn 2:16), the Lord is in the process of daily burning those things out of our life little and by little (Tit 2:12-13, Exo 23:30) as we look to the Lord (these are the thoughts that God is establishing within the body of Christ Heb 12:1-2, Rom 12:1-2).

Pro 16:4  The LORD hath made all things for himself: yea, even the wicked for the day of evil.

Sin, and the sinful flesh that we are in is a means to an end that God created for himself, so that all of His creation would be in a position of needing to be redeemed of God. The initial day of evil for Adam and Eve was the day that they were created [omission, hidden sins] in marred vessels of clay (Jer 18:4-6, Rom 9:1-3), and their inability to rightly divide God’s word when tempted of the devil was the predestined failure and overt sin of commission that all flesh must experience, the “the wicked for the day of evil”. The judgement of this marred vessel is the one event that is common to all men, and each man will be judged in the order God has ordained within His plan of the salvation of all men. The master Potter has devised a means to save all this banished wicked flesh, that is as spilt water, through those who will be the first to be redeemed by the precious blood of Christ (2Sa 14:14, Oba 1:21).

Jer 18:4  And the vessel that he made of clay was marred in the hand of the potter: so he made it again another vessel, as seemed good to the potter to make it.
Jer 18:5  Then the word of the LORD came to me, saying,
Jer 18:6  O house of Israel, cannot I do with you as this potter? saith the LORD. Behold, as the clay is in the potter’s hand, so are ye in mine hand, O house of Israel.

2Sa 14:14  For we must needs die, and are as water spilt on the ground, which cannot be gathered up again; neither doth God respect any person: yet doth he devise means, that his banished be not expelled from him.

Pro 16:5  Every one that is proud in heart is an abomination to the LORD: though hand join in hand, he shall not be unpunished.

Pro 16:5 An abhorrence to Yahweh is everyone haughty of heart; A hand upon hand, he shall not be held innocent.”(CLV)
Pro 16:5 Every one proud in heart is an abomination to Jehovah. Though they unite they will all be punished.(NSB)

The ecumenical world of religion that all of God’s elect have come out of, is represented by this ‘hand in hand’, proud spirit that takes God’s silver and gold and wraps it around the idol of our hearts, which actions are “an abomination to the LORD”. This wrapping around our hearts at that time in Babylon is inevitable and leaves us unknowingly with no stay of bread or water (Isa 3:1, Luk 8:18).

Isa 3:1  For, behold, the Lord, the LORD of hosts, doth take away from Jerusalem and from Judah the stay and the staff, the whole stay of bread, and the whole stay of water,

Luk 8:18  Take heed therefore how ye hear: for whosoever hath, to him shall be given; and whosoever hath not, from him shall be taken even that which he seemeth to have.

Pro 16:6  By mercy and truth iniquity is purged: and by the fear of the LORD men depart from evil.

It is God’s mercy and truth that purges the iniquity (Heb 9:22, 1Pe 1:18-19) in our lives if He is working with us in this age, otherwise we will have no fear of God resulting in our inability to “depart from evil”.

Heb 9:22  And almost all things are by the law purged with blood; and without shedding of blood is no remission.

1Pe 1:18  Forasmuch as ye know that ye were not redeemed with corruptible things, as silver and gold, from your vain conversation received by tradition from your fathers; [wrapped around the idol of our hearts]
1Pe 1:19  But with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot:

Only Christ can bring us to that point where we are not a foolish virgin leaning unto our own understanding, not departing from evil, which is what we do when our confidence is in our own flesh (Eph 1:12, 2Co 1:9) and not trusting in the living God (Php 3:3, 1Ti 4:10).

Php 3:3  For we are the circumcision, which worship God in the spirit, and rejoice in Christ Jesus, and have no confidence in the flesh.

1Ti 4:10  For therefore we both labour and suffer reproach, because we trust in the living God, who is the Saviour of all men, specially of those that believe.

Pro 16:7  When a man’s ways please the LORD, he maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him.

We see that enemy in the mirror every morning, and God is encouraging us with this proverb that we can be more than conquerors through Christ over this inward enemy of the cross, by dying daily and by being granted to be cursed to hang on the tree through the power of God’ holy spirit (Gal 3:13), that keeps us on that cross where we find life through death (Gal 2:20).

Gal 3:13  Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the law, being made a curse for us: for it is written, Cursed is every one that hangeth on a tree:

Gal 2:20  I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.(Joh 12:24)

We can only save ourselves from this untoward generation by being on the cross with Christ, acknowledging that we are the first generation to come to see that we are guilty of all (Mat 24:34), learning that our victory over sin comes by being bound to the altar which is the cross (Mat 27:40, Mar 15:30, Psa 118:27), this is what brings us peace that passes all understanding “he maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him”.

Mat 27:40  And saying, Thou that destroyest the temple, and buildest it in three days, save thyself. If thou be the Son of God, come down from the cross.

Mar 15:30  Save thyself, and come down from the cross

Psa 118:27  God is the LORD, which hath shewed us light: bind the sacrifice with cords, even unto the horns of the altar.

Pro 16:8  Better is a little with righteousness than great revenues without right.

Whether we have a little or a lot, if Christ is not in the center of our life, we have nothing, even if we gain all the riches of this world (Mar 8:35-38, Mat 25:29).

Mar 8:35  For whosoever will save his life shall lose it; but whosoever shall lose his life for my sake and the gospel’s, the same shall save it.
Mar 8:36  For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?

Mat 25:29  For unto every one that hath shall be given, and he shall have abundance: but from him that hath not shall be taken away even that which he hath.

Great revenues is what this world is all about, and yet God’s elect are the wealthiest people on this planet unbeknown to the world. We are that wealthy because we acknowledge that Christ must be in the center of our lives accomplishing our Father’s will for us at all times (Jas 2:5, Heb 13:5, Rom 8:28). We have peace that passes all understanding in this life as a result of God’s judgements upon us in His house (Psa 84:10-11)

Jas 2:5  Hearken, my beloved brethren, Hath not God chosen the poor of this world rich in faith, and heirs of the kingdom which he hath promised to them that love him?

Heb 13:5  Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.

Rom 8:28  And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Psa 84:10  For a day in thy courts is better than a thousand. I had rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God, than to dwell in the tents of wickedness.
Psa 84:11  For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.

What some may see as ‘little’ God calls ‘precious and abundant’ in his sight, as we are dragged to His son (Joh 6:44) and present our widow’s mite that represents our weak unprofitable flesh, that by God’s grace becomes a living sacrifice with Christ’s spirit that has power to go without the camp with our Lord, as an acceptable living precious sacrifice through Christ (Heb 13:13, Psa 116:15).

Heb 13:13  Let us go forth therefore unto him without the camp, bearing his reproach.

Psa 116:15  Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of his saints.

Pro 16:9  A man’s heart deviseth his way: but the LORD directeth his steps.

It is not in the heart of man to direct his steps, and the way that seems right to our flesh will lead to death (Pro 14:12). The LORD is the one who directs our steps out of the darkness and into the light of a right relationship with Him as His bride symbolized by Christ’s relationship with the carnal nation of Israel (Leah) to then have a relationship with the Israel of God (Gal 6:16), typified by (Rachel)(Gen 29:16-29).

Gal 6:16  And as many as walk according to this rule, peace be on them, and mercy, and upon the Israel of God.

Pro 16:10  A divine sentence is in the lips of the king: his mouth transgresseth not in judgment.

If we are blessed to not be offended in Christ (Mat 11:6) our mouths will not transgress in judgment, because it will be the judgement of Christ working within us, both to will and to do of God’s good pleasure, which is to give us the kingdom of God.

Mat 11:6  And blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in me.

A ‘divine sentence’ can only come about by our lips being burnt with hot coals (Isa 6:6-7) that symbolize the word of God, and Peter who thought he had a divine sentence on his lips said this to Christ, “Though all men shall be offended because of thee, yet will I never be offended”(Mat 26:33) .

Isa 6:6  Then flew one of the seraphims unto me, having a live coal in his hand, which he had taken with the tongs from off the altar:
Isa 6:7  And he laid it upon my mouth, and said, Lo, this hath touched thy lips; and thine iniquity is taken away, and thy sin purged.

Christ’s answer to Peter represents the hot coals that in time were going to deeply burn Peter’s then self-righteous lips that represent all of us in our appointed time, “Jesus said unto him, Verily I say unto thee, That this night, before the cock crow, thou shalt deny me thrice.”(Mat 26:34)

These actions of Christ toward Peter demonstrate what it means when we read, “The LORD is gracious, and full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy”, and as was the case with Peter it is our own iniquities, our own self-righteousness that so often corrects us, to then bring us to see our gracious LORD, who is full of compassion, slow to anger, and a very merciful Father who is ready to forgive all our sins and transgressions if we will only be granted to confess our iniquities to him (1Jn 2:1-2).

1Jn 2:1  My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous:
1Jn 2:2  And he is the propitiation for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for the sins of the whole world.

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Marriage in Scripture – Part 10: Him Only Shall You Serve https://www.iswasandwillbe.com/marriage-in-scripture-part-10-him-only-shall-you-serve/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=marriage-in-scripture-part-10-him-only-shall-you-serve Sat, 10 May 2014 02:54:40 +0000 http://www.iswasandwillbe.com/?p=7703


Him Only Shalt Thou Serve

[Study Aired May 11, 2014].

While we have already mentioned a few of these relationships in passing, our study today will be dealing with various outside sources that can, and all too often do, interfere with and erode the marriage union. Two verses of scripture will guide our study:

Mat 4:10  Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve.

That is Jesus’s assessment of our relationship to Him as His espoused wife. Reflecting that proper spiritual relationship, we are told this concerning our physical spouse:

Gen 2:22  And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
Gen 2:23  And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Gen 2:24  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife:and they shall be one flesh. 

“One flesh” presupposes “one mind” that is working together for the benefit of one family. This is what we are told concerning our relationship with our spiritual husband, Christ:

Eph 5:30  For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

Php 2:5  Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:

“Him only shall you serve” is our goal both as individuals and as married couples. But all the adversities of life are given to prove us to show us whether we will obey our Lord.

Deu 13:3  Thou shalt not hearken unto the words of that prophet, or that dreamer of dreams: for the LORD your God proveth you, to know whether ye love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul.

1Pe 4:12  Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you:

“The words of that prophet [and] the fiery trial” we will be dealing with today are the words of so many who give us perfectly terrible advice concerning our relationships with family and friends after we are married. The wrong “words of [a] prophet” can and will bring “fiery trials” and misery into a marriage.

When we consider that we are commanded to “honor thy father and thy mother” as one of the ten commandments which were written with the finger of God on tablets of stone, it should be abundantly clear that our parents symbolize those who we honor above all men on this earth until we leave our parents to marry our spouse. The fact that a man is commanded to “leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife” reveals just how sacred and how highly God Himself regards the marriage union. If we are to leave [our] father and mother and cleave to our wife, there should be no doubt about the irrelevance of any other physical relationship, when compared to the place our spouse should have in our lives.

“Him only shalt thou serve”, and “leave father and mother and… cleave to [your] wife” tells us that our physical lives should be wrapped up in the life of our spouse over all other physical relationships on this earth.

But we are “marred in the hands of the Potter” by design, and as that applies to marriage, this is what the words which “proceed out of the mouth of God” reveal:

2Co 12:15  And I will very gladly spend and be spent for you; though the more abundantly I love you, the less I be loved. 

Just as we should think of our physical spouse, the apostle Paul had just told this church at Corinth in the previous chapter:

2Co 11:2  For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.

So we need to acknowledge what the scriptures reveal. The apostle was not appreciated by those to whom he had given so much. What that tells us is that we as husbands do not appreciate a Godly wife as we ought, and wives do not appreciate Godly husbands as they ought. That is the very reason for all of these admonitions.

As we discussed in our last study on the anger that “rests in the bosom of fools”, provoking our spouse to jealousy is something we need to avoid at the expense of losing our friends and relatives if necessary, for the purpose of  pleasing our spouse and strengthening our marriage union.

All the scriptural admonitions we will cover here are simply words which are proceeding out of the mouth of God via His apostles and prophets, and while they instruct us to do those things that work to strengthen our marriage, they are also telling us what we all will just naturally do before we learn to “serve… only… [and] cleave unto [our spouse]”.

Pro 8:34  Blessed is the man that heareth me, watching daily at my gates, waiting at the posts of my doors.

Luk 10:16  He that heareth you heareth me; and he that despiseth you despiseth me; and he that despiseth me despiseth him that sent me.

“Leave father and mother”

Since father and mother are mentioned first in scripture, we will deal with this obstacle to a successful and happy marriage first.

As with every commandment God has given to mankind, He gives us His commandments because He created us as creatures who are just naturally at enmity with those commandments. Hence the command to “Leave father and mother and cleave to [your spouse].

Many are the parents who cannot let go of a child, and many a son and daughter who cannot bring themselves to leave their father and mother. There are those who actually have convinced themselves that placing their mate ahead of their parents amounts to dishonoring their parents. That, of course, whether it is a personal misunderstanding or a cultural matter, is still nothing more than a lie of the adversary who has always excelled at twisting and misapplying the Word of God. We will never arrive at the Truth by pitting one verse of scripture against another verse of scripture. God will not tell us to ‘leave father and mother and cleave to your  spouse’, and then tell us that if we do that, then we are dishonoring our parents. The Truth is always to be found in the “sum” of God’s Word. The Truth is never to be found in subtracting one verse from the others while looking for its differences. Understanding God’s Word is a matter of addition, not subtraction:

Psa 119:160  The sum of thy word is truth; And every one of thy righteous ordinances endureth for ever. (ASV)

So whether it is parents, friends, children, step-children or in-laws, no God-fearing spouse is going to permit anyone to come between him or her and their spouse.

No one is advocating that we never visit our parents and in-laws, what the scriptures do make clear that parents and in-laws are to become a distant secondary relation compared to our spouse. A wife or a husband will never permit a parent or an in-law to talk them into doing anything without including their spouse in the decision-making process. If there is any question about who should come first, let us all acknowledge that the scriptures tell us men to put our wives far ahead of father and mother.

Gen 2:24  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wifeand they shall be one flesh.

Mat 19:4  And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
Mat 19:5  And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh
Mat 19:6  Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Children

The commandment we are given concerning our children, and their relationship to their parents is this:

Col 3:20  Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

Children, in God’s mind, are to be subject to both parents. This makes it absolutely essential that parents be on the same page concerning their children. Never, as much as is humanly possible, let your children see you and your spouse disagreeing concerning how to deal with your children, and never ever take the side of a child against your spouse in front of your child. Work out your differences in private.

Notice the context of this commandment for children to be obedient to their parents:

Col 3:19  Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

The reason we are given the commandment to be obedient to our parents is because we are not just naturally respectful and obedient to them. The reason husbands are told to love their wives and “be not bitter against them” is because husbands tend to fail to love their wives, and when that begins to happen, they soon become bitter toward their wives. Do not let that happen, and again remember, that what children see in their parents is what they consider to be normal behavior, and you are cursing your own children when you allow them to witness you arguing with your spouse in the presence of your children. Do not let that happen either as much as is humanly possible, and if you are in the habit of doing that, then repent and begin a campaign to overcome that destructive and sinful habit, which will work to destroy the love in your marriage and will at the same time ruin your child’s vision of what a marriage can and should be.

Your job as a loving spouse is to build up your spouse in the eyes of your children and in the eyes of the world. You do not ever, under any circumstance, talk down to your spouse. I feel so strongly about this because I am indeed chief of sinners in that regard, and as I look back on my own destructive ways, I have learned that the only person I was humiliating before others was myself. My demeaning of my wonderful wife, with her comparatively small vices, did nothing more than reveal me for the self-righteous, hypocrite I was at that time.

So I beseech and exhort you to learn from my sins and mistakes, and never speak down to your spouse in the presence of your children or anyone else for that matter. Speak always with respect, even if firmly, to each other when being firm is called for.

One more very common mistake in many marriages, is for a spouse to side with a child against the other spouse. Can any of us imagine Christ siding with any of us against His Father? No, of course not, and yet that is exactly what we are doing in type when we openly take the side of a child over our spouse. Again, do not let that happen in your marriage. [Note: A child should never be disrespected. Their opinion should never be denigrated, but gently explained to them why it is wrong – and there will be times your child is right. (Eph 6:4 …fathers, provoke not your children to wrath…) Kids are very astute!]

Ideally our children should be able to tell their children, as my father told me so many times, “I never saw my parents have an argument”.

Do not believe that lying adversary when he tells you these are unrealistic goals. Not only are they realistic, they are the only thing that works in a marriage and in a family. So ask God to help you to “love your wife, [and] submit to one another [and] to your husband, as unto Christ”. The “as unto Christ” applies to the husband’s love of his wife just as much as it applies to the wife’s submission to her husband:

Eph 5:21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
Eph 5:22  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Eph 5:23  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

It is of utmost importance that we realize that children are never to be more important to you than is your spouse:

Col 3:20 Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

As married couples, our parents are Christ and His Father, and they are of one mind. ‘Being of one mind’ is the secret to a happy marriage, and a happy and functional family, which will grow up to be a happy parents in happy and functional families.

Rom 15:5  Now the God of patience and consolation grant you to be likeminded one toward another according to Christ Jesus:
Rom 15:6  That ye may with one mind and one mouth glorify God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.

We will be coming back to those verses at the end of this study.

Friends, especially friends of the opposite sex

Married couples should have friends with whom they can fellowship, and if at all possible those friends should ideally be fellow parts of the body of Christ and fellow members of the family of Christ:

Mat 12:47  Then one said unto him, Behold, thy mother and thy brethren stand without, desiring to speak with thee.
Mat 12:48  But he answered and said unto him that told him, Who is my mother? and who are my brethren?
Mat 12:49  And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, and said, Behold my mother and my brethren! 
Mat 12:50  For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.

Eph 4:16  From whom the whole body [including married couples] fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love. 

Eph 5:30  For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

If we have “the mind of Christ”, those words will not be restrictive to us. They will be welcomed as words that have proceeded out of the mouth of God for our admonition and for the good of “[our] own flesh”:

Eph 5:29  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

It seems that it should be completely unnecessary to have to tell a fellow member of the body of Christ, and of the family of Christ, that he or she should not be spending time with a former boyfriend or a former girlfriend, but the scriptures tell us:

Jer 17:9  The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?

Those words are just as applicable to the body and family of Christ as they are to anyone. The fact is that the adversary has the commission of trying those who are to become the heirs of salvation, and we are therefore His prime target. If the Lord wills it, to show us how weak we are, the adversary has no trouble convincing us that our intentions are above reproach when the truth is that we are seeking only to serve our flesh by ‘ministering to’ an old boy friend or an old girlfriend. Let your wife minister to your old girlfriend if she is really interested in the things of the spirit, and you be the one to minister to her old boyfriend. Do not be unaware of the devices of the adversary:

2Co 2:11  Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices. 

As we saw last week, ‘jealousy is cruel as the grave and burns like fire’. Let’s review those verses about jealousy:

Psa 79:5  How long, LORD? wilt thou be angry for ever? shall thy jealousy burn like fire?

Pro 6:34  For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.

Son 8:6  Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame. 

We are not told these words for no reason. It should be clearly understood that old boyfriends and old girlfriends are not welcome in a marriage in the sense that those relationships continue as if marriage makes no difference. Marriage makes a huge difference in how and with whom we spend our time. Pleasing our spouse, as the earthy type of Christ, comes before all other physical relationships, and the distance needed between newly weds and old romances should be considerable and immediate, to the degree that is needed to keep your spouse from feeling any sense of jealousy.

While not usually as critical, friends of the same sex, are also to be secondary to your spouse. We men do not just announce to our wives that we are going out with the boys, or taking the weekend off to go hunting with them. Wives do not just announce to their husbands that they are taking off with the girls for the evening or weekend. That is not a Godly marriage. That is the ways of this world.

Brothers and sisters

Now let’s consider where our physical brothers and sisters belong in relation to our spouse. Having contended with a family member whose coke habit cost me and my family many hundreds of dollars in stolen power tools and lost days of work, I can tell you that your wife and children should come first in your life. It took three times for me to finally learn that lesson.

It is humiliating to look back at how foolish I was to allow that to happen to me and my family. Yet it is common for all of us to want to help our brothers and sisters, and we can easily become guilty of doing so at the expense of the welfare of our own family. Never let the needs and desires of your physical brothers and sisters take precedence over the desires and needs of your own spouse who is supposed to typify Christ in your life.

If any family member simply needs financial assistance, or a place to stay for a few days, consult your spouse first. Do not ignore his or her concerns for your own family, your own children and your own marriage. Make certain in advance that your efforts are greatly and deeply appreciated. Do not waste your time that could and should perhaps be spent with your own wife and children, and your hard earned resources upon an ungrateful physical brother or sister. Before you do anything for that sibling, make certain he or she truly wants to carry his or her own weight before you offer your hard earned money or your home to a self-centered ingrate who has no gratitude for your idealistic generosity. Do not bring a bad influence into your home when all your efforts are simply being taken for granted. Put the welfare of your own family, especially your spouse, ahead of any misplaced compassion you might be tempted to pour out upon a brother or sister who has no sense of gratitude for anything you do for them, and who has no interest in carrying his or her own weight.

These words apply to our own physical siblings just as much as the apply to our brothers and sisters in Christ:

Pro 5:15  Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.
Pro 5:16  Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.
Pro 5:17  Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee. 
Pro 5:18  Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 

Eph 4:28  Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth. 

No, family members, parents, siblings or any physical relatives are not “strangers” until they come between a married couple. At that point they are indeed strangers who have no right to be where one’s mate ought to be. Never ever allow a brother or a sister to come between you and your mate who is supposed to be your own flesh.

Eph 5:28  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 
Eph 5:29  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

When we put our spouse above our physical family, we are actually placing Christ in His proper place as the center of our lives. Those verses are speaking of husbands and wives, but this is what the next verses say:

Eph 5:30  For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
Eph 5:31  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 
Eph 5:32  This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church

If Jesus Christ were your husband, would you put you parents before Him? Your Children? Your brothers or your sisters? Your friends? How about your pets? That is right, there are married couples who think more of their pets than they think of their spouse. There is no doubt a reason why that is so, but two wrongs will never add up to one right. We may think we would never put anyone in this world ahead of Christ, and yet in type that is exactly what we are doing to Christ when we allow anything in this life to come between our spouse and us.

Eph 5:32  This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

Adult children

There is one more source of stress within many marriages. Many of us have raised our children without the benefit of knowing anything about all the Biblical admonitions concerning how to properly nourish our marriage, or how to rear a child in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Many of us have lived our married lives without the benefit of ever having heard the Biblical admonitions of Ephesians 5 and Colossians 3, and are now dealing with the fruit of having been ignorant of all of the principles revealed in the scriptures that help us to have a functional marriage, and to set a Godly example for our spouse and our children.

These admonitions are very basic to a successful marriage and a functional family:

Eph 5:22  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Eph 5:23  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Eph 5:24  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Eph 5:25  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

The rest of Ephesians 5 is addressed to the husband upon whom God has placed the leadership of his wife and his children. He has not given that position to the wife, even though, as with the story of Deborah, wives are many times closer to God than their husbands, and are leaders by default.

Colossians simply reiterates these very basic principles:

Col 3:18  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
Col 3:19  Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

This all being the case, there is another source of stress within a marriage which is becoming more pronounced as the job market becomes more and more restricted, and that is parents who are feeling that they are being forced to help their adult children who have lost their jobs or who have gotten a divorce, or who may simply not be mature enough to hold down a job for one of a thousand reasons. What are Godly parents to do when confronted with such situations?

The answer, once again, is contained in the principle revealed in:

Gen 2:24  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Do anything you and your spouse can agree upon to help your adult children, but let your spouse, the type of Christ in your life, be first and foremost at all times and under all circumstances.

You both love your children so consider what your mate has to say about how far you should go in helping your adult children. But be honest with yourself about your own children. If your child cannot hold down a job, then do not put the physical needs of an adult child who simply has some hard lessons to learn, ahead of yourself or your spouse. When you do so you are doing nothing to help that child, and you are doing nothing to strengthen either your marriage or your child, and we will all reap what we sow.

We must be honest with ourselves about our children. If our child is what the scriptures call “the slothful man, [or a] sluggard”, then this is how that child is described:

Pro 26:12  Seest thou a man wise in his own conceit? there is more hope of a fool than of him.
Pro 26:13  The slothful man saith, There is a lion in the way; a lion is in the streets.
Pro 26:14  As the door turneth upon his hinges, so doth the slothful upon his bed.
Pro 26:15  The slothful hideth his hand in his bosom; it grieveth him to bring it again to his mouth.
Pro 26:16  The sluggard is wiser in his own conceit than seven men that can render a reason.

It is always “the sluggard [who] is wiser in his own conceit than seven men that can render a reason”, and indeed there is more hope of a fool than of him. I recall my days as a remodeling contractor. I was always having to talk my crew into going to work on days when there was a possibility of rain. Ninety percent of the time, it would not rain at all, or else the rain would last 30 minutes, and it would be over. Do not enable a slothful man or a sluggard, especially if that man or woman is your own child. Any adult who cannot meet his or her own daily needs is in need of experiencing some of the pains and troubles that are this life.

Job 14:1  Man that is born of a woman is of few days, and full of trouble.

If you love your child, you will insist that he carry his or her own weight, pay his or her own bills, and feed themselves as the scriptures command us:

2Th 3:10  For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat. 
2Th 3:11  For we hear that there are some which walk among you disorderly, working not at all, but are busybodies.
2Th 3:12  Now them that are such we command and exhort by our Lord Jesus Christ, that with quietness they work, and eat their own bread. 

“We command and exhort by our Lord Jesus Christ, that with quietness [you let your adult children] work, and eat their own bread.”

When we enable our children to remain dependents, we are robbing ourselves and our spouse of our own substance for the sake of enabling our children to remain as dependents upon us and upon society, and this is what the scriptures have to say about taking part in robbery in any form:

Pro 29:24  Whoso is partner with a thief hateth his own soul: he heareth cursing, and bewrayeth it not.

“He heareth cursing and bewrayeth it not” is telling us that we continue to do what we know we should not do:

Rom 7:16  If then I do that which I would not, I consent unto the law that it is good.
Rom 7:17  Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.
Rom 7:18  For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not.
Rom 7:19  For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do. 
Rom 7:20  Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.

We will continue to “do that I would not” until we have experienced enough pain to make us appreciate how good it feels when we quit banging our head against the wall, returning to our own vomit and our wallow in the mire.

Pro 26:11  As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly.

So we ought to help our children when it is proper to do so and when the assistance rendered is mutually agreed upon with our spouse, and when our assistance is not simply enabling a slothful child to remain as a dependent child upon ourselves and upon society.

Conclusion

This life is full of hard decisions which require knowing what is the mind of God. Being of one mind, and that ‘one mind’ being the mind of Christ who had the mind of His Father, is the secret to our personal relationship with our spiritual husband, as well as the secret to the type of that spiritual relationship, which is the relationship of a husband and a wife.

Here is just how important it is that a husband and wife have “the same mind”:

One Mind

Rom 15:5  Now the God of patience and consolation grant you to be likeminded one toward another according to Christ Jesus:
Rom 15:6  That ye may with one mind and one mouth glorify God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.

2Co 13:11  Finally, brethren, farewell. Be perfect, be of good comfort, be of one mind, live in peace; and the God of love and peace shall be with you.

Php 1:27  Only let your conversation be as it becometh the gospel of Christ: that whether I come and see you, or else be absent, I may hear of your affairs, that ye stand fast in one spirit, with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel;

Any married couple who are “likeminded one toward another according to Christ… may with one mind and one mouth… stand fast in one spirit with one mind striving together” to confront every assault which the adversary will attempt to bring against this physical union of marriage. But Sandi and I are proof that our heavenly Father is able to save you and your marriage out of the mouth of that roaring lion known as the adversary with all of his wiles.

I will close this study with one more verse from the apostle Paul, who was acutely aware of this secret to the success of our marriages and of our marriage relationship with Christ:

1Co 1:10  Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.

Our next study is the last in this series on marriages. It will be on the devastating affects of selfishness, and the subtle ways we use to justify getting our own way to the detriment of our marriages.

Men have certain ways of being selfish and abusing their wives, and women are just as guilty. We will discuss those ways we use to get our own way, and Lord willing, we will come to be of one mind in seeking to please the Lord and do all we do in His way.

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God Experience Evil? https://www.iswasandwillbe.com/god-experience-evil/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=god-experience-evil Wed, 24 Sep 2008 05:00:01 +0000 http://www.iswasandwillbe.com/?p=2632 Does God Experience Evil?

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Fellowshipping Alone https://www.iswasandwillbe.com/fellowshipping-alone/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=fellowshipping-alone Thu, 26 Apr 2007 05:00:01 +0000 http://www.iswasandwillbe.com/?p=2508

V___ wrote:

Hello, I have a question about assembly with like believers. How do I assemble with someone, when there is no one that believes like I do in my area? I don’t go to church with my husband anymore.  I haven’t for some time now.  He has accepted this fact and doesn’t harp at me.   I love him, but I am missing fellowship.  I have no close friend (physical that is).  So…. what does a person do?  I would like to go to one of these conference you guys hold, but money and timing is not right, right now.  If you’re ever going to be in St. Louis area or Kansas City, sure like to know. So  what about this assembly thing?

V____

Hi V,

Your question about assembling is a common one as it seems most of the body of Christ, upon coming out of Babylon, endure a lonely walk.  From what I have seen and heard meeting believers at these little conferences, we are a rarity.  Many believers are enduring the hardship of trying to live a godly life in Christ Jesus without benefit of anyone else in their day-to-day life with whom they can share this wonderful joy into which God has brought us.  Before answering your email, I looked up a few scriptures on the subject.

1Jn 1:7  But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, w e have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.

1Jn 1:3  That which we have seen and heard declare we unto you, that ye also may have fellowship with us: and truly our fellowship is with the Father, and with his Son Jesus Christ.

Heb 10:23  Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;)
Heb 10:24  And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works:
Heb 10:25  Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.

I saw right away that as long as our walk is ‘in the light’ we do have fellowship with each other. As the marriage relationship shows us, Christ is our head…

1Co 11:3  But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

… and we are His body.

Col 1:24  Who now rejoice in my sufferings for you, and fill up that which is behind of the afflictions of Christ in my flesh for his body’s sake, which is the church:

Eph 5:30  For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

While the face-to-face fellowship is a wonderful and beautiful thing to enjoy, no one need ever feel they are inferior to anyone else in the body of Christ just because they cannot afford the money or time to attend.  When each of us, as 1 John 1:7 shows above, are ‘enduring to the end’, ‘walking in the light’, treating each and every one we meet as we would treat Christ, we are part of the body of Christ and we do enjoy fellowship with Him and God the Father. That’s where fellowship starts. [Update: we now have meetings by Zoom every day or evening which are a wonderful way to share fellowship and bible study. Just visit the home page to see the list.]

Mat 25:40  And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.

The nice thing about living in these times is the instant and near instant contact we can have with each other no matter what the distance between us and other parts of Christ’s ‘body.’  If ever you have a question or just need to have a chance to connect with someone else striving to live in Christ, we are just an email or phone call away.  If you ever just need to talk, we have unlimited long distance and would love the opportunity to talk with you.  I know if your husband is not believing as you do, there may resentment, so that would be up to you.  You say he doesn’t harp at you, and that is a good thing.  Not every woman in the body of Christ has a husband so tolerant, but some must endure jeering, name calling and at times, even physical abuse for their beliefs. I thank God for His drawing you to Him and giving you the strength to be steadfast.

Heb 13:3  Remember them that are in bonds, as bound with them; and them which suffer adversity, as being yourselves also in the body.

3Jn 1:4  I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.

2Jn 1:6  And this is love, that we walk after his commandments. This is the commandment, That, as ye have heard from the beginning, ye should walk in it.

Let me hear how you are doing, and know you are loved by the spirit of Christ abiding in many people even though they have not had the pleasure to meet you yet.

Col 1:10  That ye might walk worthy of the Lord unto all pleasing, being fruitful in every good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God;

Who knows (only God) if your example will be the instrument to draw your husband.

1Co 7:16  For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband?…

Take heart.  Remember our Savior lived in the flesh for 33 years and never once had fellowship with a converted person.  It did not hinder His relationship with His heavenly Father! So don’t sell being ‘just’ one person short.

Mike

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