Deuteronomy – Deu 5:16 Honor Your Father and Mother

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Deu 5:16 The Fifth Commandment - Honor Your Father and Mother

Deu 5:16  Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

There is a theme in the commandments that I'd never noticed until The LORD had me studying the book of Deuteronomy. The commandments are not just random laws given by our Creator. There is a flow and a purpose in the way they are laid out and used to condemn us (1Ti 1:9).  The first  commandment deals with serving The LORD as Author of our freedom from Egypt. The Second commandment deals with making an image of creation to worship the God Who brought us up out of Egypt. The third commandment deals with the name of God Who brought us up out of Egypt. The fourth commandment deals with keeping the Day of rest, as a worship of God for bringing us out of Egypt.  And now the fifth commandment deals with worshiping God by honoring how He brought us into this world, into Egypt by our father and mother.

All of these commandments deal with Egypt:  how we were born into Egypt, we were slaves from birth in Egypt, God Himself put us there, and it was God Himself Who delivered us from Egypt by His mighty hand, Jesus Christ.  It all revolves around the knowledge that God is to be worshipped through the Creator - Jesus Christ, the Image-Jesus Christ, the Name-Jesus Christ, the Rest-Jesus Christ, and our father and mother-Jesus Christ. What does honoring father and mother have to do with the worship of God? It is because our Father typifies Jesus Christ as the Seed which gives life, and our mother typifies the Spirit of the Comforter Who nurtures us through life.

Gal 3:16  Now to Abraham and his seed were the promises made. He saith not, And to seeds, as of many; but as of one, And to thy seed, which is Christ.

Joh 14:26  But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you.

Being born into this world can be typified in two different ways. Both are true in their type, yet only true when you know the truth;

(1) When we are literally born into this world, we can say we are born slaves in Egypt. We did not ask to be born, we did not have a pre-existence which made it possible for us to choose to come into the world, and we are not little gods separate and independent from the One and only God. We are born where, when and by which parents we have because this is what God had predestined for each life. Whatever the case, we are in Egypt and called out of Egypt.

Mat 2:14  When he arose, he took the young child and his mother by night, and departed into Egypt:
Mat 2:15  And was there until the death of Herod: that it might be fulfilled which was spoken of the Lord by the prophet, saying, Out of Egypt have I called my son.

What does this have to do with honoring your father and mother? We must now search the scriptures and find out who and what is our father and mother. First, the natural then the spiritual (1Co 15:46).  We know that the literal meaning of the commandment is also true. It comes first before we can see the spiritual meaning.

Eph 6:1  Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
Eph 6:2  Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)
Eph 6:3  That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.

Col 3:20  Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

What does it mean to "honour" our father and mother?  What does the word "honour" mean?

As I began to write these words I remembered that today was my physical mother's birthday. I know that she expects me to "honour" this day as the day she was born and that because she is my mother, I should send her gifts. But is that honour? Is it honoring to celebrate the flesh? The world would say that it is, and that to not honor this day would be dishonoring to my mother.

However, telling the truth is the best way to honor anyone and to honor God. Would it be more honoring to dishonor God by celebrating flesh?  How do we honor our father and mother? Serve God in truth. If we are serving God before all others, we are honoring the seed that gave us life and the womb that carried us.

Luk 14:25  And there went great multitudes with him: and he turned, and said unto them,
Luk 14:26  If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
Luk 14:27  And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple.

Is He telling us to literally hate our parents? Absolutely not! He is telling us not to put anyone's flesh before Him and in doing so you are honoring them. By honouring Christ as my Creator I am saying that He chose to have me physically born into this world through these two people. They did not conceive me - He did. He created the womb that carried me and the seed that conceived me.

Psa 139:13  For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother's womb.
Psa 139:14  I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
Psa 139:15  My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
Psa 139:16  Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.

It is all God, it is all His plan, it is all His creation. None of it was planned by us, and to insinuate that it is by my planning, separate and independent from Him, is dishonoring my parents and giving them the glory for what He has done. If I give them the glory for what He has done, then I am leaving them in sin and blindness. How many times have our physical parents worried about what we have done wrong or bad in our choices as though they were in some way complicit to what we are? To leave them in this ignorance is to leave them in sin and to dishonor them. Whatever things occurred in my life happened because they were written in my book, and they were just tools used by God to get me there. My parents were in no way responsible for my actions as I was not for theirs. The Creator is in control, not us.

Joh 8:49  Jesus answered, I have not a devil; but I honour my Father, and ye do dishonour me.
Joh 8:50  And I seek not mine own glory: there is one that seeketh and judgeth.

Here Christ gives us an example of honoring His Father, His Creator, by not taking the glory for what He is, was and will be. The same goes for us. We are what we are because God has made us what we are, not our choices, not our friends and not our physical parents. To put our physical parents before God is to put flesh over spirit, to serve that which is from beneath the heavens rather than He Who is from above.

Joh 8:23  And he said unto them, Ye are from beneath; I am from above: ye are of this world; I am not of this world.

Am I saying that we are stop caring for our father and mother like the Pharisees? Absolutely not.

Mar 7:9  And he said to them, "You have a fine way of rejecting the commandment of God in order to establish your tradition!
Mar 7:10  For Moses said, 'Honor your father and your mother'; and, 'Whoever reviles father or mother must surely die.'
Mar 7:11  But you say, 'If a man tells his father or his mother, "Whatever you would have gained from me is Corban"' (that is, given to God)
Mar 7:12  then you no longer permit him to do anything for his father or mother,
Mar 7:13  thus making void the word of God by your tradition that you have handed down. And many such things you do." (ESV)

The religious world will tell you that you are to forsake your family's physical needs and give to the church over them, disregarding their legitament physical needs. The last Babylonian meeting I went to, I watched as people walked to the church because they were too poor for transportation. Then I watched as the pastor and his wife drove up in a new cadillac, late to arrive even. They were dressed like they were rich, and the wife was all done up with a big new hair-do and lots of jewelry. They sang songs, gave a hell-fire damnation service and then went on how the parishioners needed to give all they could to the church. I watched as people literally dropped in their last bits of change into the brass plates. I thought how they were doing it because they thought that God would bless them with more money if they gave. They were denying their very family, dishonoring them.

This is religion and dishonoring to God. What Scripture does teach is that when we are serving God, we will be taking care of our physical families in a way that will be pleasing to God and man. Again we must not veer off the road into fleshly emotions and walk over the spiritual understanding from scripture to fulfill the desires of the flesh. Again we must ask, "Who is our father and mother that we are to honor. What is this commandment really about spiritually?" This takes us into our second type and figure.

(2) When we are wandering around in the desert of life, we end up coming to Egypt as a type of religion. Life through the predestined hand of God has been chosen to give us very hard blows in order to make us look for God. This brings us to religion, Babylon, where we at first find food for our soul. But this food, which is delivered through the law or a string of offshoots of the law, then becomes our burden. We then become enslaved in another way, enslaved to church doctrine and laws. This is something we must all go through because it is through this path that we are finally crushed to powder.

Jer 27:2  Thus saith the LORD to me; Make thee bonds and yokes, and put them upon thy neck,
Jer 27:3  And send them to the king of Edom, and to the king of Moab, and to the king of the Ammonites, and to the king of Tyrus, and to the king of Zidon, by the hand of the messengers which come to Jerusalem unto Zedekiah king of Judah;
Jer 27:4  And command them to say unto their masters, Thus saith the LORD of hosts, the God of Israel; Thus shall ye say unto your masters;
Jer 27:5  I have made the earth, the man and the beast that are upon the ground, by my great power and by my outstretched arm, and have given it unto whom it seemed meet unto me.
Jer 27:6  And now have I given all these lands into the hand of Nebuchadnezzar the king of Babylon, my servant; and the beasts of the field have I given him also to serve him.
Jer 27:7  And all nations shall serve him, and his son, and his son's son, until the very time of his land come: and then many nations and great kings shall serve themselves of him.
Jer 27:8  And it shall come to pass, that the nation and kingdom which will not serve the same Nebuchadnezzar the king of Babylon, and that will not put their neck under the yoke of the king of Babylon, that nation will I punish, saith the LORD, with the sword, and with the famine, and with the pestilence, until I have consumed them by his hand.

First, the negative - Babylon is our first mother and Nebuchadnezzar is our father. Babylon represents all the religions of the world which lead us down a path of self-gratification at all cost - self-gratification in our ceremonies, traditions and sacrifices to the unknown god which we fashioned from our mind's eye. She is loud and unruly. She is shy and meek. She is forward and pushy, and she is demanding and self-justifying. Finally, she is flattering to the flesh.

Pro 30:20  Such is the way of an adulterous woman; she eateth, and wipeth her mouth, and saith, I have done no wickedness.

Pro 7:5  That they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with her words.

Pro 7:10  And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart.
Pro 7:11  (She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house:
Pro 7:12  Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.)

Why does she have on an attire of a harlot? Because what she clothes herself in she takes the honor for. Covering nakedness is God's job, not ours, and she takes the credit for the works of God by clothing herself, covering her sin;

Gen 3:7  And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons.

These fig leaves were the attire of a harlot, covering their sin as though their sin was their own.

Gen 3:21  Unto Adam also and to his wife did the LORD God make coats of skins, and clothed them.

So a harlot is our first mother and our father is a liar and a murderer;

Joh 8:44  Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.

When we speak against others in the flesh by the words of our father, we are being murderers;

Mat 5:21  Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment:
Mat 5:22  But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.

1Jn 3:15  Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him.

Religion teaches us to look down on others because of who they are or what they've done. It kicks them out of their tribe. Our father the Devil teaches us to look down on others so that it validates our own doctrine.

Joh 9:28  Then they reviled him, and said, Thou art his disciple; but we are Moses' disciples.
Joh 9:29  We know that God spake unto Moses: as for this fellow, we know not from whence he is.
Joh 9:30  The man answered and said unto them, Why herein is a marvellous thing, that ye know not from whence he is, and yet he hath opened mine eyes.
Joh 9:31  Now we know that God heareth not sinners: but if any man be a worshipper of God, and doeth his will, him he heareth.
Joh 9:32  Since the world began was it not heard that any man opened the eyes of one that was born blind.
Joh 9:33  If this man were not of God, he could do nothing.
Joh 9:34  They answered and said unto him, Thou wast altogether born in sins, and dost thou teach us? And they cast him out.

They thought they were honoring God by reviling this man, talking down to him because he was born blind, which meant he was "altogether born in sins" and then casting him out of their church. But what they could not see was that they were dishonoring God by the fruit of their lips. We honour our father the Devil when we are in religion, when we speak evil of others who cannot help who or what they are.  Religion blinds us from what we were and from where we came. It puffs us up so that we are above others in our hearts. Now, let's cover the positive of "honor our father and mother" and who they represent.

It's obvious to the spiritual mind that our Father is God, and our mother is the church.

Mat 6:9  After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.

Gal 4:26  But Jerusalem which is above is free, which is the mother of us all.

So how do we honor our spiritual Father and Mother, who together are ONE?

Eph 5:28  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
Eph 5:29  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
Eph 5:30  For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
Eph 5:31  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Eph 5:32  This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

This set of verses teaches that our father and mother are Christ and the church. The church is the flesh and bones of Christ Himself and should therefore be honored as such. Christ is our Father. Let's cover that first.

Isa 9:6  For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.

Jesus Christ is our everlasting Father. He is so united to His Father Who created Him that He is given the title and authority of His Father, just like Joseph was given the power of the throne of Pharaoh, but not the throne.

Gen 41:40  Thou shalt be over my house, and according unto thy word shall all my people be ruled: only in the throne will I be greater than thou.

So we honor Christ by honoring Who scripture says He is; "his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace." To make Him anything less than what scripture testifies is to dishonour Him.

Joh 8:49  Jesus answered, I have not a devil; but I honour my Father, and ye do dishonour me.

We are shown that Christ is our Father, and we honor Him as such. We realize that all power is given to Him, and we can then worship Him in honor and truth. Christ is the Father, the Creator of all things, whether they be powers, principalities, things seen or things not seen to us, and when all things are redeemed, then all power will be given the the Father of Christ.

Col 1:16  For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him, and for him:
Col 1:17  And he is before all things, and by him all things consist.

1Co 15:28  And when all things shall be subdued unto him, then shall the Son also himself be subject unto him that put all things under him, that God may be all in all.

Mat 28:18  And Jesus came and spake unto them, saying, All power is given unto me in heaven and in earth.

When I was a child growing up, I thought my Dad was the greatest man that ever lived. To me he was the toughest, strongest, smartest man that ever lived. I would brag about him to my friends and tell them all the things he knew. I never looked at another man as wishing he were my Dad because I had the greatest Dad. When we see Christ as He is, was and will be, we should have this same thought. To lessen Him in any way is to dishonor Him, and we lessen Him when we speak evil of His creation. My Dad would whittle me slingshots out of wood, he would whittle trains, boats, soldiers, just about anything. He could make stuff out of newspaper, like hats and boats. He taught me to fish, hunt, trap, work on cars and tractors, and I could go on and on.

I say this to say that this is like Christ. Everything we know is because, as a father teaches his children, so does Christ teach us about Himself and about spiritual life. I am who I am in the flesh because Christ created my physical father to be who he was to me and thereby Christ created me to be who I am. Christ created me by my physical father, and the same is happening to us in the spirit. He is recreating us into His image by what He teaches us.

Understanding who our mother is gives a lot more clarity to our verses at hand.

Mat 12:46  While he yet talked to the people, behold, his mother and his brethren stood without, desiring to speak with him.
Mat 12:47  Then one said unto him, Behold, thy mother and thy brethren stand without, desiring to speak with thee.
Mat 12:48  But he answered and said unto him that told him, Who is my mother? and who are my brethren?
Mat 12:49  And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, and said, Behold my mother and my brethren!
Mat 12:50  For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.

These verses above show us who is our mother. Our mother is made up of the elect who have been given the power by the spirit to do the will of God. That will is to believe on the only begotten of the Father, Jesus Christ. The Elect, who are the only ones who will believe in this eon, make up the very Body of Whom they are believing. They are together the church, the wife of Christ, and are His very flesh, bone of His bone and flesh of His flesh. They are made up of His rib.

Eph 5:22  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Eph 5:23  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Eph 5:24  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Eph 5:25  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Eph 5:26  That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
Eph 5:27  That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:28  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
Eph 5:29  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
Eph 5:30  For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
Eph 5:31  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Eph 5:32  This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Eph 5:33  Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

So who is our mother? The church, the body of Christ, each and every individual part of the group that is in agreement with what the mother says about how we are to honor our Father, Jesus Christ. When we take off on our own and are in disagreement with the sayings of the church, we are dishonoring our Head. We all will do it and have done it, but we must turn from our own individuality and feed from the work of our Father and Mother. When a father goes to work and earns money to sustain his family, he is bringing back the goods that he has earned for his work, and this is what Christ has done for the church, His body. Or, just as while the father is at work, the mother is feeding children, cleaning the messes of the children, cooking food for her children, bathing her children, making the household run smoothly, this is the church doing the work for her husband. This is whom we are to honor, our spiritual Father, Christ and our spiritual mother, the church. We must not use this truth to diminish our natural parents like the Pharisees did, but use this truth to further help and strengthen our natural parents. Let's not forget that to honor them is to speak the truth to them and to tend to their needs.

Next week, LORD willing, we will cover the sixth commandment;

Deu 5:17  Thou shalt not kill.

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