Married Couple Leave Father and Mother?

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Hi R____,
The honor would be mine, if ever you have the opportunity to come down to Georgia and visit with us.
You ask:
” Is God saying that my mother and father are a primary responsibility of mine until I am married?”
No, that is not what Christ was saying. It is true that children ought to take care of older parents instead of placing them under the care of total strangers when this is at all possible. But the point Christ is making here is that a married couple cannot be “one flesh” while living under the roof of either of their parents. The parents tend to want to dominate the lives of the children, who should be trying to please each other, and the children tend to want to please their parents instead of their mate.

Eph 6:1  Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
Col 3:20  Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord

But we are not to remain as little children in Christ:

Gal 4:1  Now I say, That the heir, as long as he is a child, differeth nothing from a servant, though he be lord of all;
Gal 4:2  But is under tutors and governors until the time appointed of the father.
Gal 4:3  Even so we, when we were children, were in bondage under the elements of the world.

So when you get married you need to “leave your father and mother,” and separate yourself from the daily influence of your parents, and be one flesh.
No, your healthy, middle aged parents are not your responsibility:

 2Co 12:14  Behold, the third time I am ready to come to you; and I will not be burdensome to you: for I seek not yours, but you: for the children ought not to lay up for the parents, but the parents for the children.

Our Father in heaven provides for us and not vice- versa.
I hope this helps you to see what the scriptures say on this subject. God’s ways really are good ways to live by. They are what works.
I hope you can come to visit!
Mike

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